Getting The Juices Flowing

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Now if I was in a naughtier frame of mind, that title could mean this was a totally different type of post… but as I generally don’t talk sex on here, or at least not in an overt blunt manner, that’s not what that title means.

For anyone who’s been around these parts lately (or not so lately, to be more accurate), you’d have noticed a decidedly lack of activity since mid-August, with the previous couple of months being very sporadic.

Once again, I’ve become a lazy blogger and writer, and it’s becoming increasingly hard to get back into the flow of things.  To get those creative juices flowing, so to speak.

Or maybe not…

Repeatedly over the past few months, I’ve had ideas for blog posts or things I’d like to write about but I just haven’t.  More than anything I just keep dreading the thought of sitting down at the laptop after a full day’s work in the office in front of the computer.

My eyes (and brain) can only take so much I think.

So instead of writing I’ve been voraciously devouring books on my Kindle, gotten re-addicted to Candy Crush, and watching Netflix like it’s going out of season.  So instead of writing cause I don’t want to be in front of the laptop, I’m glued to the tv, my tablet or my Kindle… not much different, right?

And all the while I’d doing that, I’m having ideas pop into my head of things to write about, or possible (fiction) stories to write, and so forth… but yet I still don’t do anything about it, and the ideas either continue to rattle around my head or get forgotten into the ether.

So what the hell has prompted me to actually sit down today and write?  How’d I manage to shockingly drag my ass out of bed or off the sofa to sit in front of the laptop?

To be honest, it almost didn’t happen at all.  I was all snug and warm under the duvet, with unlimited lives on Candy Crush and could have easily just stayed there all afternoon.

But what kept going through my head was snippets of a conversation I’d had with a mate at a birthday party in Soho.  A mate who’s had some short stories or poetry published, and is about to have more of his work published in the next six months or so.

And as thrilled as I was to hear of how well he was doing and the palpable excitement in his voice as he explained his plans, all I could think about was ‘why isn’t this me?’.

Yeah… good old jealous selfish me couldn’t just be happy for him, but I had to think about how that’s exactly where I want to be in life.  Well, not exactly.  He writes poetry and children books (with a touch of horror), whereas I’m looking at LGBT fiction, with a side of M2M romance thrown in.

But from our conversation last night, I can understand why he’s doing so well at the moment – he’s working at it.  He dedicates time each and every day to write a certain number of words.  He makes sure he takes the time to hone his writing, and pushes himself to accomplish it even when he’s not feeling up to it.

And me?  I’m just sitting here like a bump on a log wishing I could be published.  And haven’t done a damn thing to get to where he is at the moment.  Or more accurately, where I want to be.

I know the only person that’s going to drive me to succeed is me.  Not my mate, not some mythical publisher who’s going to come out of the woodwork wanting to put my words into print.

Not even you, the lovely people who’ve taken the time out of their busy days to stay with me even when I wasn’t sure I was coming back.

I know I need to get off my ass and motivate myself to do something about what I want out of life.  And if I don’t, then I only have myself to blame when I don’t succeed.

Here’s hoping this is the wake up call I need to get my butt in gear… time will tell, right?

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Self-Help (Article) Overload

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Over the past couple of years, I’d gotten into the habit of posting re-hashed versions of self-help articles that others had written. I would read them, and then rewrite them from my perspective.

It works to an extent, as it allowed me to give my opinion on a wide range of topics, most of them being things I felt I was going through at the time. So in my mind, I was sort of doing a bit of self therapy by writing my version of these pieces.

I honestly can’t say if it was a good thing or not, or even it was anything remotely original. Sometimes it even felt like I was just rewording what had already been said instead of actually giving my option on the topic.

But as well, I noticed after awhile that I tended towards two main types of topics – gay dating tips and mental health issues.

And I’m by no means an expert in either subject.

It probably gave a contrasting and possibly confusing blend for those reading my site – one day I’d post about the joys of online dating profiles, and then the next about needing to build up self-esteem.

Or perhaps (to some) it gave them more of an insight into how I viewed the world.. and that’s the perspective I’m REALLY hoping people went for. 😉

For awhile I found myself constantly searching the internet for interesting articles about whatever idea had popped into my head, or whatever depressive or anxiety-ridden ‘symptom’ I’d convinced myself I had that day .. and then any links I didn’t use that day, I would save them in my blog drafts to use another day.

So today (or is it last night now..), I was scrolling through the saved drafts, and it’s a plethora of cheesy and almost ridiculous sounding articles. Though, some could be helpful…

  • 7 Obvious Signs He Wants to Hook Up and Not Date
  • The Thirst is Real (kinda don’t want to know about that…)
  • Secrets of Happily Single Gay Men.. Who Really Want a Boyfriend
  • Writing Your Way to Happiness (I still might read this one..)
  • What Your Friends with Social Anxiety Want You To Know
  • Table For One – The Rise of Solo Dining

And the list goes on and on.. over 100 saved article links or potential post ideas, some even ranging as far back as 2013!!

To be fair, when I was regularly ‘writing’ these posts, it was usually because I wasn’t happy about something in my life so wanted to get some perspective and help myself somehow.

But it was also usually because there really wasn’t much actually going on in my life at that moment (or day), and my own loneliness or insecurities drove me to the keyboard to ‘fix myself’.

I can’t honestly say if that was a good thing or not, if it even helped at the time, or even if I’ll never do it again if I continue to post regularly.

Though I do have to sometimes laugh at myself… posting tips on online dating or maintaining a relationship, when I was sitting home alone and still had never had a boyfriend.

Maybe I was self sabotaging my own personal life by over-thinking it all.

And maybe I still do.. while sitting at home alone. 😉

A Long Overdue Update…

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I’d love to say the main reason I’ve been so absent from my blog over the past month is because I’ve been too busy actually living life.  That I’m so busy that I just haven’t had a single moment to pop online to update my blog.

I’d really love to say all that.. but that be a load of shit.  LOL

Life has been slightly busy over the past month since I returned from Gran Canaria, but not so much so that I couldn’t jot something down quickly just to keep the site up to date.

sloth_lazy_tv_art_mloveizm_magazineThe honest truth?  I’ve been an absolutely lazy twat.  HAHAHA

Work never gets any busier than it already is, as there’s zero overtime or requirements to work on the weekends.  Most days I get home from work, lay on my bed playing on the iPad (which I could easily use to write blog posts..) and then plop myself in front of the television while I gobble up my dinner.

Real exciting life, huh? 😉

Ok.. so my isn’t really THAT dull and predictable.  I have gone out a couple times here or there, and one recent weekend saw me going to two different birthday parties.  It’s not all boredom and being social hermit, but it does feel that way sometimes.

I can’t even say that I haven’t had much to write about or even to say about my life and the world around me, cause there’s loads going on in the world that I have some definite opinions about.

threesomeAnd it’s not even that I’ve been dating someone, or meeting loads of new guys causing me to be too busy having fun to get my ass online.  Or that I’ve just been busy having loads of sex (I wish!! LOL).

Cause let’s be honest… like most people, I’m online all the time really.  Both at home and at work.  Especially after my mobile provider quadrupled my monthly data allowance recently.

For some reason it’s been weeks since I’ve turned on my laptop, even to just listen to music or watch a movie online.  Funny how things change, when before I used to literally live on my laptop… Think at one point last year I actually ran out of things to watch on Netflix. haha

Maybe it was just time for a bit of a break (again!), and I needed to gather my thoughts a bit before launching any new posts or rants about the world around me… but that’s just giving another lame excuse.

Like I already admitted, I’m lazy.  lol

And like most lazy guys, the longer you allow yourself to get drawn into the habits of laziness, the easier it is to just go with it and not break the cycle.  Having a quiet lazy day or evening after a busy day at work is absolute bliss.. but can’t be letting it take over my life, right?

lazy-monday-8So.. what now?

I’m not going to make some grandiose promise about how I’m going to do better about updating my blog, making sure I don’t go more than a couple days without a post.  That would just be setting myself up for failure, and life should be all about realistic and attainable goals.

I do have loads to catch up on, and so much that I’m just itching to write about.. so we’ll see how things go.

And since I’m already on my laptop, maybe I’ll just have to get all those stories out while I can.  🙂

How to Make Yourself More Dateable

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Being single can really suck at times, and trying to navigate through the gay dating scene can seem almost like torture.  But yet we’re willing to be masochists and jump right back in, even when it seems like we’re not getting the results we’d like.

But are we actually letting the world make us believe that it’s our own fault that we’re single?  Well.. yes and no.  When you’re not making yourself available or open to opportunities, you’re not doing anything to change your situation.

Allow room for spontaneity in your life

We all have people in our lives that seem to be constantly busy, and are never up for anything last minute.  These guys tend to organise their lives so far in advance that you end up trying to find ways to fit yourself into their diary instead of just going with the flow.

Too many seem afraid to allowing spontaneity into their lives, as if it’ll make the world spiral out of control if the day isn’t perfectly organised.  If you don’t take the risk to get out there and put yourself in new or unplanned situations, then how do you expect to meet someone new?  Or if you can’t change your plans, why not invite your crush-du-jour to join you.. it’s a great way to see how they interact with your friends, and vice versa.

Be proud to be yourself

Dressing_for_success_tips_on_dressing_for_an_interview_330x330Let’s be honest – there are way too many fakers out there, with their perfect lives and fabulous vacations, which they’ll recount to no end to ensure you’re green with envy.

Seriously, what’s the point?  What do they truly expect to gain from hiding who they really are from a prospective new beau?  They’re setting themselves up for disappointment and heartbreak because they’re secretly afraid of being judged for who they really are.

Instead just be yourself from the start, goofy quirks and all.  Because in the end what you really want is someone who gets who you really are from the start, not some hyped up version of yourself you think others will like.  Don’t dim your own light around others, because the most valuable trait you can possess is your own authenticity.

Know your moral compass

Too often we’ll meet people who’ll try to sway us from our goals and focus in life, be it our dreams for the future, how we relate to others, or even how we choose to live our lives.  These goals are what fuel our drive and motivation, and we should never allow another person to judge us or bring us down based on their own limitations.

Basically it’s your life, and it’s the only one you’ve got to live.  So why not make a stand for who you are and what you believe in, instead of letting that new sexy guy over-ride your ideals and thoughts.  And when you enter the dating scene knowing what you want and look for, then you’re more likely to find someone compatible with similar morals in life.

To thine own self be true

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We’ve all faced the feared question in job interviews – Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years? – and regardless of whatever corporate drivel you spew out to impress that prospective boss, what does it really matter if you’re not the man you want to be.

Too often we focus solely on improving our careers or material possessions instead of working on improving ourselves.  Why not take that extra energy and put it into your own life.  Improve who you are as a person, and in the long run that ‘career’ will find itself to the happier, more contented version of yourself because you’re actually ready for it.

Love yourself.. emotionally

We’ve all heard the cliché that you’ll never find someone special if you don’t already love and appreciate yourself.  And despite it being trite, it’s actually true.  So how do you expect to meet Mr Right when you’re projecting the idea that you’re undateable or not good enough?

You’re an awesome human being, and everyone around you knows it and loves you for you .. so why don’t you?  Stop being scared of loving who you are as a person and trust that others will appreciate it as well.  Let your positive light lead the moths to your flame.

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Be good towards others

Part of life is we all make mistakes and no-one wants these broadcast to the world, so why is it we spend so much time shaming others when they screw up?  Who cares if someone did something wrong, or doesn’t fit into your perfect mould of how a man should act.  It’s probably not the end of the world (unless they’re some maniacal evil genius, obviously lol), so why not just laugh it off and focus on how the person makes you feel instead.

Stay focused

The best way to make a guy feel important and admire you for it is to give him your focus.  When you’re chatting with some cutie focus on him and what he’s saying, not on what’s going on around you or any possible messages you’ve receive on those dating apps.  Put away the mobile, stop staring at the exit to see who’s coming or leaving, and instead just truly listen to what he has to say.  It’ll make all the difference in the world.

Don’t live to work

Too many people put their careers before their personal lives, and in the end both tend to suffer for it.  How are you going to fuel your creativity or recharge your zest for life if you allow your work to overtake every other part of your life?  By ensuring you’re enjoying life itself, you’ll end up more satisfied in life and you’ll find you’re giving a visible value to your world.

Trust your instincts

brasil-gay-beachStop going dating with blinders on, because you’ll continue to miss on the crucial red-flags that’ll end with you in tears wondering why ‘Prince Charming’ doesn’t love you and turned into such a dick.

It’s crucial to be open-minded but not so naïve that you let the other guy walk all over you.  Be strong and courageous in your dating life, but don’t neglect your gut instincts.

You’ll be much happier for it.. and you’ll find your real ‘Mr Right’ in the end.

This post was inspired by: 10 Ways to Make Yourself More Dateable – GayGuys.com

Finding Your Passion

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Life is an adventure.  So why spend it doing things that bore you or make you miserable?

Loads of people talk about finding your passion in life, and to look for ways to turn what could be a hobby into something more substantial.  Or at least that’s the dream, right?

Inventory your talents

The first thing you need to do when looking for your passions in life is to figure out what you’re good at.  And not just that, but what you’re good that excites you.

be diferentFor instance, you could be good with numbers but unless the idea of crunching numbers all day gets your blood flowing, I wouldn’t recommend a career in accounting.

Perhaps your passion could even be something you enjoy doing but don’t think you’re good at.  We are our own worst critics and tend to doubt our own abilities, even after others enthusiastically compliment us on them.

And who cares if others may not thing your passion is ‘practical’ or even common.  Sometimes having a passion that is off the beaten path can lead to something amazing an unique from what everyone else is doing.

Pay attention to who makes you annoyed or jealous

We all have people around us that make us annoyed by how frivolously they live their lives.  But have you ever taken a moment to think why that is?

Most likely, it someone who’s following their dreams and doing what they want to do in life.  It could be someone who has quit a well-paid full-time job in order to start their own home business.  Or it could be someone who’s left a stable (and possibly, boring) life to move abroad and live in another country.

Basically, why be jealous of those who are making their dreams a reality? And why live a life that everyone else expects you to have?  That truly isn’t going to make you happy or satisfied in life, so get out there in the world and follow your own path.

You never know who it may inspire to follow you.

Think of what you loved to do as a child

Remember when you were a young child and what used to excite you?  Was it making up stories for your toys, or dancing around your room to the music on the radio?  Or maybe it was becoming fascinated with the worlds you could explore through books or movies?

Think back to what made you happiest as a child, and maybe you’ll be able to unearth your true passion in life.

Notice what you hate to stop doing

Like most people, you probably spend a fair amount of time at work watching the clock and wishing it was time to go home or it was the weekend already.  How is that really any way to live?  And it definitely doesn’t do much to encourage your ‘passion’ in life.

Think about how you spend your life and those activities that seem to melt the time away.  When you’re immersed in these activities you don’t’ notice the time flow by, and you most definitely don’t want to stop once you’ve started.

That’s your passion.  It’s something you could spend all day or night doing and never get bored of it.  it’s something that allows you to get so involved that you’re actually sad that you have to stop.

See your passion hunt as a fun, joyful adventure

Finding and enjoying your passion should be one thing – a fun adventure of self-discovery.  At no point should you be putting pressure on yourself to find a passion in life, as that’ll defeat the purpose.

Steve Jobs quoteAnd if you try some new activity hoping it could be your new passion, do not get down on yourself if it doesn’t work out.  The whole point of this world of self-discovery is to enjoy different things in life that you may not have thought of trying before.  It’s about seeing what you like, enjoy and are good at, not a competition to see who finds their passion first.

Allow yourself to be open to new opportunities and experiences.  You just never know when you’ll find that magical activity that just lights you up inside.

This post was inspired by : Five Steps to Finding Your Passion | Psychology Today

Stop Absorbing Other People’s Negative Energy

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Like most people, I tend to be a bit of an emotional sponge when it comes to other people’s energies.  Perhaps I unwittingly mirror their attitude or demeanour on a subconscious level, allowing myself to be sucked into their negativity.

As well, I think I can at times project my own bad mood on others, causing them to come down to my level.  It’s something I try hard to not let happen, but sometimes it just does.

Ultimately we all need to do our best to find ways to maintain our own positivity, while shielding yourself from the negativity bombarding you from all around.

Take responsibility for yourself.

It’s ways too easy to fall into someone else’s negative attitude and allow it to wash over you.  For instance, who hasn’t had a co-worker who’s constantly berating everything around them – job, company, workload, boss, etc.  And as they spew their negative views, you want to be support by listening or giving them some advise, but next thing you know you’ve joined them on their downward spiral.

Only you can and should be able to control how you’re feeling at any given moment.  As often as we get testing by life around us, you need to make a conscious decision to not allow that negativity impact you, your life or your attitude.  It may not always be easy, but it’ll be worth it longterm.

Just Breathe.

fresh airThere’s a reason people will tell you to take a deep breath when you’re feeling frustrated or upset about something.  Just the act of breathing itself can be very therapeutic, and can help you clear out the negative energy that has affected your mood.

The best thing you can do when the negativity is creeping up on you is to stop what you’re doing or thinking, sit back, and take a nice big deep breath, and then slowly let all of it go.  Sometimes you may need to change locations before doing so, and that’s ok.  Get a bit of fresh air and allow it to revitalise your energy.

Ignore It.

NEGATIVEGenerally when a negative person is going on about who horrible things are, all they’re really doing is looking for an audience to bring down with them.  For some it may be intentional, but others may not realise they’re doing it.

They literally are looking for someone to absorb their negativity, so why give them the satisfaction?

We all know negative people will continue to be that way no matter what you say to them, so why not just ignore them.  It’ll pop their balloon in a way, and allow you to get on with your day.

You can’t make everyone happy.

If someone constantly complains about their life or whatnot, then all they’re really looking for is someone to bring down to their level not for you to help them work through their issue, realistic or not.

Ultimately you can’t make everyone happy.  Really, you can’t, no matter how hard you try.  When you give into these attention-seekers, you allowing yourself to get sucked in and allowing them to attack your own positive energy.

You need to work at maintaining your own upbeat attitude, and not allow these negative people waylay you from your own happiness.

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This post was inspired by: 4 Ways To Stop Absorbing Other People’s Negative Energy

An Update of Sorts

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Where do I start…

It’s been well over a month since I last posted anything to my blog, and it hasn’t been due to a lack of things to write about.  Life gets busy sometimes, and sometimes there just isn’t any time to catch up on things.

But maybe that’s just a bunch of bull.. there’s been plenty of time to write on my blog, and plenty of opportunities to log on.  But for some reason, I just haven’t done it.

It’s not like I’ve been super busy with work or an amazing social life, because I haven’t been really.  More than anything I’ve just fallen into a rut where all I seem to want to do when I get home from work is relax, watch Netflix, and sleep.

I haven’t been going out that much really.  In fact I’ve continued my regular habit of spending my weekends at home, doing pretty much nothing.

Lazy on sofaSo there’s obviously lots of time for me to write and blog, and there have been times I’ve had some great ideas for posts or stories I’d like to write.

But .. nothing.

For whatever reason I’ve just found it hard to sit down at the laptop and open up a fresh post, and put my thoughts to paper so to speak.

It’s not like I’ve stopped enjoying the writing process or the act itself, but I haven’t.  If anything I’ve found myself itching to get back to it regularly.

I suppose a big factor in everything has to be environment.. in my current flat, I just don’t feel energised to be creative, or even have the energy to get off my ass and do what I want to do.

This probably has as much to do with how I feel about where I live as well as the environment itself.  For whatever reason, my bedroom feels almost claustrophobic and dark, as if I was living in a basement instead of on the 2nd floor.

It also hasn’t helped that I’ve gotten into the habit of using my desk as a dumping point for post, dishes and whatnot, leaving hardly any room for my laptop let alone sitting at the desk and writing.

Einstein quoteBut luckily change is on the horizon… finally.

Not only have I done a massive clean up to reduce the clutter in my room (wasn’t messy per se, just needed a good clear out), but I’ve also given my notice to move.

That’s right, after almost a year living in this gloomy, dreary place, I’ve finally found a new place to live.. and will be moving by the end of October.

The sooner the better.

Not only is it closer to work (about 25 minutes by bus including a 10 minute walk to the bus stop), but it’s also more central and closer to my friends.  So hopefully this will give me more of a push to get off my ass and live life more.

But I think the main reason I’m excited to move to this new place is my new flatmate.  He seems really nice, friendly, and interested in having someone to share the flat with him, not just rent a room.

moving-in-packing-organizingAlso helps that he’s not the landlord, but just another tenant in the flat.

Oh, and he’s Italian. And gay. And yes, he’s cute.. but I won’t be looking to cross that boundary.  LOL

I suppose this impending change has just gotten me excited about things a bit more again.  And living in a flat where it doesn’t feel like I’m inconveniencing the other person.

Change is good, and I can’t wait for it to get here. 🙂

There Once Was A Blogger….

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There once was a blogger who went under the simple moniker of ‘M’. 

He started a blog over six years ago as a way to keep friends and family back home abreast of his adventures after moving across the ocean.

He initially wrote about the excitement and nervousness of this move, and how he was assimilating into the new culture and his new (& much bigger) city.

Then over time his writing changed. 

He started writing about all sorts of things – some mundane, others exotic, sometimes political, and some down right eye-openingly explorative into the natural world around him.

He documented many ups and downs over the years, and didn’t even shy away from discussing the truly dark periods he battled through.

But through it all (and even through occasional breaks), he always appreciated the love, support, and camaraderie he found through his fellow bloggers and regular readers.

It is this that’s kept him going and continue to write, even when he didn’t feel like it. Or at least to pop on, make a few comments or ‘like’ other’s posts, sending others messages of love and bear hugs.

Or even at least to drop in and write some cheesy, soppy, third-person narrative about his blog so everyone reading knew he was still here.😉

He wants everyone to remember that he’s still living life as it comes, and still partially writing a couple posts in his head daily… Even if they never make it to the digital page.

He’ll be back in full force real soon (fingers crossed) with all new tales of life in the big city, dating, flat-hunting, or anything else that he feels he wants to talk about.

And that he’s DESPERATE for the warm weather to truly start in his part of the world. 

He needs a tan dammit! LOL

Hugs and kisses,

~M~

Another Year, Another Liebster Award

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It’s definitely that time of year again in the blogging world, when the not-so-elusive ‘Liebster Award’ nominations are spread around the blog-o-sphere.

Or at least it always seems to be around this time of year.  Last year was early February when I posted about my nomination for it, and April the year before.  This is the third year I’ve been nominated, though some years I have gotten multiple nominations.

This year the nomination came from Vinnieh over at his self-named blog, and I’m super grateful for it.  The whole point is to give recognition to those bloggers you enjoy reading and do a bit of cross-promotion at the same time.

Now on to answer the questions Vinnieh has set upon me:


Do you prefer watching films in the cinema or at home?

  • It depends really.. I used to go to the cinema a lot, but then couldn’t afford it anymore.  With the advent of Netflix and such, I tend to spend much more time at home watching movies.

Do you have any tattoos?

  • Not as yet.. I’ve always wanted one, but could never settle on a design.  I’ve had something in mind for a year or so now, just trying to get up the courage (and funding) to make it a reality.

What is your favourite sport?

  • Not really much of a sports fan, though do enjoy going bowling.  That counts right?

Who is your man crush or woman crush?

  • Well I’ve already discussed my current man-crush on a recent posting.. go read it. 😉

How good are you at keeping secrets?

  • I’d like to think I’m pretty good at it.  Why.. is there something you’re dying to tell me??

What movie do you love that everyone else seems to hate?

  • ‘Hackers’ starring the young Angelina Jolie and Johnny Lee Miller.  Most say it’s cheesy or lame how they make hacking seem cool, but I love the feel of it, and the soundtrack is outstanding.

What do you enjoy the most about blogging?

  • So many different things… The thrill of getting my written word out there for the world to see.  The satisfaction when people enjoy what I’ve written.  Being able to interact and start a dialogue about certain topics, even if it is my own love life.  LOL

What is your star sign?

  • I’m a Cancer, and tend to embody most of the main characteristics.

How many languages can you speak?

  • One and a bit.. English (obviously), and a little bit of French – I grew up in Canada, so we had to take French in school, and then I lived in Montreal for many years.

What is your most valuable belonging?

  • It may seem superficial, but I’d have to say my Kindle.  I don’t generally go anywhere without it, as I’ve always got a book on the go.  It helps me engage my imagination while exploring other fantastical worlds.

Describe yourself in five words.

  • Introvert, Loving, Confused, Naive, Loner.

Phew.. now onto my nominations, listed in no particular order:

  1. Confessions Of A Wallflower
  2. COCKTAILS & COCKTALK
  3. Things I Like… And Then Run
  4. Peter Monn
  5. A Life In London*
  6. KiltManinSoCal
  7. Lindaghill
  8. The Guyliner
  9. Flights, Tights, And Movie Nights
  10. A Guy Without Boxers
  11. Ivansblogworld’s

Definitely not an exhaustive list in any way at all, but can’t nominate everyone I suppose.

And here are my questions for my nominees…

  1. What’s your writing ritual?
  2. What guilty pleasure can you not go without?
  3. Have you ever had anything pierced other than your ears, and what was it?
  4. What’s your favourite place in the world?
  5. Have you ever lived in a different country from where you were born/raised?
  6. What’s the worst holiday you’ve ever been on?
  7. Boxers or Briefs?  Or ‘au naturel’?
  8. Apple or Android?
  9. Have you ever been to a nude beach?
  10. What’s the one regret you have in life?
  11. Describe yourself in five words.

And that’s the lot of it! Check out all of the nominated blogs, and happy Liebster Award season. 😉

It’s My Blog-iversary!

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It can be amazing how quickly time can fly, and you don’t realise when you’ve hit certain milestones.

In my case, it wasn’t until I logged into WordPress today (14-Dec-2014) that I realised that it was my anniversary writing on this blog – 6 years ago today, I took the plunge and created this site on the recommendation of a work colleague, who used to have a cycling blog on here.

I’d originally created the site as a way to document my travels and settling into life in London, as I’d just moved here a few months prior (4-Sept-2008 to be exact).  And I thought this would be a great way to keep my friends and family back home up to date on how things were going, while also having a platform to showcase some of my writing.

At that time, I never for once considered that I’d keep it going this long, or that I’d write about the various topics I have over the years – love, sex, life-coaching articles, dating, depression, marriage equality, politics, film/book reviews, and probably a couple dozen other things.

It’s been quite the ride, and it’s allowed me to have a little voice in the vastness of the internet while meeting some amazing people over the years through comments and visits from other bloggers.

It’s also helped me work through personal issues over the years, as writing about my feelings can be very therapeutic, while hopefully being able to give a little bit of advise to others in the same/similar situations.

As well, it’s helped give me some confidence in my writing itself, even if I haven’t been doing it as much as I’d like to lately.  Just in the past year alone, I started two different books – a fantasy novel with a gay twist, and an e-book compiling some of the self-help articles I’ve posted here over the years (albeit, both of them are gathering virtual dust…).

In the end though, is my life where I want it to be?  Of course not.

I still don’t have much of a career, especially after the redundancy a couple years back.  I’m still single and overly obsessed with the lack of action (pardon the pun lol) in my dating life.  I’m still renting a room in someone else’s home, despite wanting a place of my own (too expensive in London..).

I could go on and on about where my life ISN’T right now, but that’s not why we’re here today.

Roller Coaster Great RideInstead, I want to celebrate where I am currently and how far I’ve come over the past 6 years.  Looking at the stats on here, over the past 6 years I’ve had just over 61,000 hits!!!  Talk about amazing! 😀

Other than the stats, it’s more about how I’ve created this safe space for myself to tell my tales, talk through my woes, try to motivate myself (and hopefully others) to be a better ME, and generally have this one spot on the net that is solely mine.

And to have people like yourselves, who take the time to read what I write, leave comments and likes, and sometimes even give me advice or words of wisdom of your own.

bigbang-6th-anniversaryAnd I thank each and every one of you for every single comment, like, share, and so forth you’ve given me over the years.  At times it’s helped me continue writing when I thought about giving up and closing this site.

So.. what now?  Where will the next year (or 6) lead me and this site?  Who knows, but here’s hoping it’s a fun and exciting ride that we can take together.

Love, Mx