Control Your Attitude


Like a lot of people out there, I tend to dwell on the negative things that happen in my life.  And the more I think on things, the worse they make me feel and build upon the already negative feelings I’m having.

This, of course, isn’t a healthy or great way to deal with negativity in my life.  But sometimes it’s not as easy as just flipping a switch to stop thinking so negative.  It takes a lot of work to turn my attitude around, and sometimes if it’s been built up too much, then it’s near impossible to see the forest through the trees.

When I’m feeling negatively about something, I tend to get angry about it as well and wanting to lash out at something (or someone)… Which usually does more harm than good in the long run, so best to not allow myself to get to that point.  Not an easy feat at times.

So what is one to do if they’re starting to feel negative?  Well, why not try a few of these tips.

Shake that booty

As much as I hate hearing people say exercise is the best way to release tension and refocus your energy, you can’t help but agree the amazing rush you get when you get yourself out there and move around.  It doesn’t have to be a full-on work out, but could be as simple as going for a walk, try a bit of yoga, go for a bike ride.  Or even as simple as putting on your favourite dance tracks and dancing around your bedroom. It gets the endorphins surging for a bit and allows your body to pull away from your mind.

dancingSpell it out

For some people, myself included, writing out your feelings can be very therapeutic.  You may think that it’ll just bring you closer to the negativity you’re feeling, but that’s only while you’re writing them down.  Just the exercise of getting the words out can do you a wonder of good, as it allows you to look at the situation from a different perspective.  And perhaps allow you to actually work through that negativity in a more creative way.

Give someone a hand

There’s no better feeling you can get than when you’ve helped out a fellow human being with someone.  It be helping a mate move house or paint their new place, or even as simple as cat-sitting for a friend while they’re away.

Or if you want to take it further, there are numerous volunteer opportunities in your community, which allows you to make a more tangible positive difference in someone’s life.

In the end, helping someone else out can be very fulfilling and help you fill your head with new positivity.  It’ll also get you out of your cave and give you a chance to interact with others who need you.

No news is good news

Let’s be honest – there isn’t a lot of positivity shown on the nightly news, so if you’re already feeling a bit down, then turn it off.  Don’t even watch it, regardless of how intrigued you are about certain events occurring around the world.  The last thing you need is to feed your negative feelings with stories of war, murder, closed-minded politics or any other horrible thing they show each night.

Instead turn your brain onto something different, something beautiful and positive.  Read your favourite novel.  Watch your favourite movie.  Listen to your most uplifting diva.  Basically seek out the good stuff in life, and let the positivity take over your being.

Show those pearly whites

smile not crySometimes a smile, or even a good laugh, can do wonders for your negative feelings and help turn your energy back into positivity.

We’ve all heard that tired cliched saying ‘Turn that frown upside down’, usually from someone who doesn’t know what to say about what you’re going through.  And as lame as you may think that advise it, it’s actually quite valid.  Making yourself smile and laugh can be contagious, and before you know it, you’re feeling right as rain.

Turning your negative attitudes and feelings back into something more positive takes energy and effort on your part.  So go ahead and put the effort in.  Because in the end, you’ll only have yourself to thank for your own happiness.

This post was inspired by: You can control your attitude by Brian Tracy with article by Scott Stabile

Stop Absorbing Other People’s Negative Energy


Like most people, I tend to be a bit of an emotional sponge when it comes to other people’s energies.  Perhaps I unwittingly mirror their attitude or demeanour on a subconscious level, allowing myself to be sucked into their negativity.

As well, I think I can at times project my own bad mood on others, causing them to come down to my level.  It’s something I try hard to not let happen, but sometimes it just does.

Ultimately we all need to do our best to find ways to maintain our own positivity, while shielding yourself from the negativity bombarding you from all around.

Take responsibility for yourself.

It’s ways too easy to fall into someone else’s negative attitude and allow it to wash over you.  For instance, who hasn’t had a co-worker who’s constantly berating everything around them – job, company, workload, boss, etc.  And as they spew their negative views, you want to be support by listening or giving them some advise, but next thing you know you’ve joined them on their downward spiral.

Only you can and should be able to control how you’re feeling at any given moment.  As often as we get testing by life around us, you need to make a conscious decision to not allow that negativity impact you, your life or your attitude.  It may not always be easy, but it’ll be worth it longterm.

Just Breathe.

fresh airThere’s a reason people will tell you to take a deep breath when you’re feeling frustrated or upset about something.  Just the act of breathing itself can be very therapeutic, and can help you clear out the negative energy that has affected your mood.

The best thing you can do when the negativity is creeping up on you is to stop what you’re doing or thinking, sit back, and take a nice big deep breath, and then slowly let all of it go.  Sometimes you may need to change locations before doing so, and that’s ok.  Get a bit of fresh air and allow it to revitalise your energy.

Ignore It.

NEGATIVEGenerally when a negative person is going on about who horrible things are, all they’re really doing is looking for an audience to bring down with them.  For some it may be intentional, but others may not realise they’re doing it.

They literally are looking for someone to absorb their negativity, so why give them the satisfaction?

We all know negative people will continue to be that way no matter what you say to them, so why not just ignore them.  It’ll pop their balloon in a way, and allow you to get on with your day.

You can’t make everyone happy.

If someone constantly complains about their life or whatnot, then all they’re really looking for is someone to bring down to their level not for you to help them work through their issue, realistic or not.

Ultimately you can’t make everyone happy.  Really, you can’t, no matter how hard you try.  When you give into these attention-seekers, you allowing yourself to get sucked in and allowing them to attack your own positive energy.

You need to work at maintaining your own upbeat attitude, and not allow these negative people waylay you from your own happiness.


This post was inspired by: 4 Ways To Stop Absorbing Other People’s Negative Energy

Working Towards a More Positive Attitude


One of the good things about having this blog and some of the topics I’ve written about over the years, is it has allowed me to become a bit more self-aware of my moods and attitudes towards life.

And what I’ve realised is that perhaps I’m that negative person everyone warns against.  The person who never has anything positive to say, who is always focusing on the bad things that are going on in life.  That could a gross overstatement, but if I can sense it in myself, I’m sure others can as well.

I don’t think I’ve always been like this.  I remember years ago being somewhat happy-go-lucky, optimistic, and even downright cheery at times.  Or at least it seemed like I was at the time.

But somehow I’ve become this pessimistic, sour, miserable sod who can only think of what isn’t in his life, instead of what actually is.

So maybe it’s time to try and focus on the good things going on, and look towards the light instead of sulking in the gloomy darkness.  It’s not something I can change overnight, but it definitely doesn’t hurt to give it a try…

Happiness is a Choice

We’ve all heard it.  We need to stop focusing on the bad stuff, and to choose to be happy and positive.  As if that was the easiest thing in the world, when it would feel at times that everything around us was conspiring to hold us down or make life so hard to life.

What we all need to realise and work on is not immediately looking for the blame when things go bad, but instead to look at the positives in the situation.  To look for the good and stop pointing fingers.  We need to realise we are in control of our reactions or attitude, and nobody else can change that.

Get Rid of the Negativity

bad-friends-pic-3A true friend will always be looking to help you to live a positive, happy life, and will be encouraging you to go for your dreams.  A true friend would be right beside you as you move down the road of life towards your happiness, and vice versa as well.

It’s not an easy thing to have to cut negative people and behaviours out of your life, and sometimes it’s even harder to determine who is actually encouraging and who is actually pushing you towards their own negative views on life.  But as hard as it is, you really have to do it in order to move forward with YOUR life.

Look For the Positive

Every situation you find yourself in can be both a positive or negative influence on your life or attitude, and it’s up to you to determine what you’re going to focus on.  It’s not always easy to truly see the positives, but if you look hard enough, it will be there.

The easy route is, once you’ve identified something negative, is to focus on that negativity and stop looking for the positives of the situation or the person you’re talking to.  When in a room full of negativity, it’s so much easier to just be caught up in their bad attitudes, and before you know it you’re acting just as negative as they are.

Instead, look for what’s good about the things happening around you.  For example, instead of getting sucked into your co-worker’s complaints about how shit work is, think about how great it is you have a job that allows you to live your life and put food on your table.

Reinforce Your Own Positivity

its a lovely lifeLike anything in life, you have to practice and practice before habits and attitudes will truly change for the better.  You have to train yourself to look for the positives, and then continue to reinforce that behaviour.

And this is especially true when looking at yourself and your life in general.  Remind yourself what is good in your life, what you like about yourself, how far you’ve improved over the years, or any other sort of thing that helps reinforce that positivity.

It’s ok to be critical of yourself, but only in a positive and constructive manner.  Tearing yourself down or reminding yourself about what you don’t like about yourself will only help you slide back down that slope into your previous negative attitude.  Try looking at things from the other side for once.

Sharing is Caring

To put it simply, being nice to others and sharing your positivity with those around you is the best way to continue to help yourself down your road to positivity.  Tell a loved one how much you care about them.  Tell a co-worker how they’ve done a good job.  Show appreciation to those who’ve helped you, even if it’s the barrista who’s made your morning latte or the person who held open a door for you.

It’s not always an easy thing, that’s for sure.  But the more positive you are towards others, the more positive they’ll be to you.  And the more positive you’ll be towards yourself, which is the ultimate goal.  Strive to be encouraging and supportive of everyone around you, and you’ll amazed at how quickly it comes back to you.

Believe in yourself and remember that a positive outlook is a choice that you can always make.