Making Plans


Ok… pet-peeve time.

Am I the only one who gets frustrated with people who’ll agree to potential plans but won’t seem to narrow down a date or time?  Where it feels like there’s more back and forth about when to meet up than there should be?

Why is it so damn hard to pinpoint when and where to meet up with someone?  It isn’t rocket-science after all.

This isn’t a new frustration for me.  I may not be the most decisive person, but I definitely prefer to have a solid idea of what it going on instead of the general vagueness that most seem to live with.  I like to know where and when I need to be somewhere, instead of this floating around some seem to do.

The best example of this is when people say we should ‘hang out sometime’ but never really narrow down when they’d like this to happen.  And god forbid they actually make the effort to actually arrange something.

Maybe this is done as a ‘place-marker’ so they don’t have to actually commit to anything.  Or so they can see if a better offer comes along.  But to then turn around later on and complain that the other person didn’t plan anything, it’s a piss off because they had the opportunity and didn’t even try.

I suppose a lot of people out there (myself included probably) are just waiting on someone else to make the first move in arranging something.  This could be a laziness issue (me LOL), a fear of rejection (me again…), or their lives are already so busy that they don’t have the time to actually plan something (everyone else it seems…).

And speaking of those with the over-active diaries and social lives… They seem quick to say something about meeting up, but never seem to be able to say when they’re available when asked.  And then a month or two down the line, the same conversation starts all over again with the same results.

Or if they do make plans, they don’t seem to even narrow down when it’ll actually happen on the day.  For example, I was chatting to an online mate one Saturday morning about finally meeting up in person for a coffee, and to me the implication was it was going to be earlier rather than later as he said he had things to do later in the afternoon.

But instead they continued to be vague throughout the day about what’s going on and whether or not it was actually going to happen.  The messages back and forth never set down exactly when they wanted to meet up, and it was a lot of ‘I’ll let you know when..’ sort of things.

And to me, that’s the rudest thing you can do to a person.  How self-involved can one person be that they expect the other to just sit around waiting on them to decide they’re finally ready to meet up?  Do they think they’re that important that the world should wait on them?

I may not have had much planned for that day, but I definitely didn’t expect to spend my whole afternoon waiting on him to finally show up just past 4pm.  I had other options for the afternoon and could have done one of them instead.

Oh and if we agree to meet up, then please know WHERE we need to meet.  Don’t tell me it’s around such-and-such area only for me to travel across town to get there, and then an hour or so later you tell me it’s actually a different area that I could have gotten to easily.  And you’re already there waiting for me.

Or when I’m already en-route to where you’d agreed to meet but you suddenly change the location and it’s totally in the opposite direction.  Meaning I now have to spent time re-determining how to get there, and probably back-tracking on myself to get there.

And please, do expect a slap if you even THINK of complaining I’m late after all that shit.  LOL

Manners maketh the man, people…


Basic Manners


It amazes me, in this day and age, how some people still don’t know basic manners.  This is especially true if you’re in any sort of business, but also in life.  Today was a prime example of a lack of manners, which surprises me being in London and all.

I can’t really go into too many details, as I haven’t really told the ‘what’ that is happening to many people, and it’s probably best to keep it quiet until I know for sure what’s happening.  This is in case those people it may affect are actually reading this blog, and I wouldn’t want to cause any problems with them.

Damn, could that be any more vague?  LMAO Don’t worry, it’s nothing seedy or illegal.  I can hear the groans of disappointment now… 😉

And for anyone curious, my friend James I speak of here is someone I met not long after moving to London.  He’s gay as well, but we’re just friends.

Anyway, I was to meet James near Victoria Station at 4pm for our ‘appointment’.  I was there well early, but didn’t hear a peep out of him.  Just before 4pm, I walked down to where we were going and waited around, hoping he’d show up.  By close to 4:30 I’d given up and started heading back to Victoria Station when James called to let me know the appointment had been moved to 6pm last minute, and that he’d be at the Station by 5pm so we could grab a quick bite before going.

That was fine, no big deal … would have been nice if I’d known earlier that the appointment had been moved though.  It would have saved me from stalking around Upper Tachbrook Street (where the appointment was).

Anyway, after James showed up, we went for a bite to eat at Wasabi (great food for cheap … check it out if you get the chance) before heading to the appointment … where we waited close to an hour for the guy to show up, which he never did!!  It’s a real piss off too, cause we both want to get this whole thing sorted asap so we can plan out next plan of attack.

So around 6:40pm we decided to give up on the guy showing, and went home.  Well, I went home; James was heading to a friend’s place to get some help with his CV.

Around 8pm or so, I got a voice-mail from James saying that the guy had just called him and ‘claimed’ he’d forgotted or lost is phone earlier, which was why he hadn’t called us back to arrange our meeting.  Whatever.. likely story.

So now, we’ve rescheduled our appointment for tomorrow afternoon at 2pm, which means we both have to get some time off work last minute to go take care of this thing.  I haven’t decided if I want to see about taking a half day (using some vacation time) or maybe just take a really long lunch and go back to work afterwards.  It would have worked better for me if it had been later in the evening, but James has other plans already that can’t be rescheduled.

It just seems to me that the guy we’re meeting with would have a little more sense as to what he’s doing.  If it wasn’t for the fact that James and I are both really keen on doing this thing, we would have buggered off already.  This guy is supposed to be a businessman of sorts, so you’d think he’d be a lot more on the ball.  And when you know you’ve got an appointment at a certain time, at a certain place, don’t you think it be good business to at least show up, even if you’ve ‘lost’ your phone?

We both really hope this meeting goes well, because it would definitely be beneficial for both of us.  And once it is all sorted, and I’ve informed those who need to know about it, I’ll let the rest of you know as well.