My So-Called Love Life


Well, I’d call it a love life if it actually existed somewhere other than in my mind.  Or on my iPhone.  Or my computer.

I’ve talked several times about the troubles I’ve had in my dating (or sex) life and lack of any sort of relationship happening.  Ever.

I’d seriously thought that all this would change when I moved to London.  That my silly man-child romantic dream of finding Prince Charming living in a quaint little flat near the Thames would actually come true.

HA!  Oh man, what the fuck was I smoking back then?

On a side note, it is interesting to realise that since moving to London I’ve rarely dated/shagged anyone British.  Funny that..

Anyway, after a recent acceptance that Prince Charming doesn’t exist, and that perhaps I’m just one of those people who’s destined to be alone their entire lives, I’ve literally given up on finding anything.  Including shags.


I guess I’m just at the point that, if there’s never going to be any great love (or any love for that matter) in my life, then why should I even bother to keep trying?  What’s the point in being online or going out and being sociable all in the hopes to meet someone interesting?

Of course the advent of all those new and shiny mobile apps that allow you to see what guys are online in your area haven’t helped any either.  To me that’s just instant rejection, and allows you to cut out the part where you head to the pub to get snubbed or ignored.

Sure.. I should just be enjoying my time hanging out with friends and having a few laughs.  And I would, if any of them ever bothered to come hang out with me.  Or lived in the same city as me.  Or even bothered to return my messages.

(Of course the best are those people who say ‘You should have called me to hang out’ but you know from Facebook and stuff they would have just been too busy with their actual social life to sit and listen to you moan about your lack of one.. and god forbid they actually try to include you in their plans.)

That’s right.. I’m that lonely guy leaning at the end of the bar looking around wishing someone would talk to them.  Or I’m sitting on the couches, bored and playing on my mobile.  I’m shy, so I have a really hard time making a first move.

Lord knows I’ve met so many people over the years who always ask the same question: ‘What’s a nice guy like you doing single?’… Of course underneath it all you just know they’re really wondering ‘What’s wrong with you?’

And maybe there truly is something broken inside of me, some part of me that’s holding me back from truly getting out there and enjoying life, regardless of who’s around me.  I just wish I knew what it was so I could fix it.

Cause in the end, I need this solitude to change.  It’s bad enough I’m sitting at home on a Saturday night, but what’s even worse is it’s Jubilee weekend (4 day weekend) and I have zero plans with anyone..

Not that that’s anything new.. I never get invited places really.  It’s my usual weekend thing – spend it alone, and mostly in front of my computer cause at least that doesn’t ignore me.

Le sigh…

Spring Cleaning


OK.. so maybe mid-May is a bit late to do some ‘cyber’ Spring Cleaning, but better late than never.

An email today prompted me to take a look at this blog .. It was all about adding links to my posts that would help them advertise and make me some money.  I’m pretty sure it’s spam, but it got me thinking about this space and how I’ve literally neglected it for over a year now.

So I decided to spruce a few things up (still deciding if I want to keep the overall theme, or chose something more ‘cheery’…), review the blogroll and delete any blogs that were out of date or inactive while visiting those still going strong (or have been active within the last 6 months at least).  Then I updated my ‘About Me’ section, as I realised it was at least two years old..

And then.. nothing.  Huh, what to do now?

Sure there’s been loads going on in my life over the past year… Hell, there’s been loads going on in the WORLD in the past year… But would people actually be interested in me rehashing the past year?  Or should I just look towards the future?

Maybe I should post a couple pics or YouTube videos and see if there’s any site traffic.. but then thought that’s just being lazy.  If I want to see if people are willing to still read this space and about my life, then I can’t take the easy way out.

Historically I generally posted about my life when things weren’t going so well.. I used to write in a journal back in Montreal when life was beating me down, and it was a great outlet for getting my feelings out.  A habit I actually miss and keep meaning to get back to, but never have.

I’m usually too busy playing on my iPhone. hahaha

Basically I need to get back to using this space as my voice to the world, where I write about things that are important to me, or pique my interest while scanning the interwebs.  Things that make me think and hopefully give me a chance to open up a discussion..

Or maybe just post a few pictures of some hot guys. Depends on my mood I guess. 😉

I suppose only time will tell where all this will lead me..

Ciao for now..


Be back online soon…


Hi everyone!
Thought I’d take this rare opportunity of actually being online on a computer (flatmate’s Mac) and not on my iPhone to give a bit of an update.

I haven’t been able to get my laptop fixed as of yet, and I don’t think I’m going to.  According to a guy at work, it would cost about as much to fix my current lappie as it would to buy a new one.  And I think I’ve found one I really want through and, where I’ve found an Acer laptop with loads of memory/hard drive space for £399, which is a pretty good price.

I haven’t decided 100% as of yet though.  Am still shopping around to see what’s available.  Never know, I may find a better deal out there somewhere…

As for other things in my life, things seem to be going really good.  James and I have settled into the new flat quite nicely (thanks to those that were able to make the housewarming party a few weeks back!!), and the flat has become home for both of us quite easily.

On top of this, I’ve really started to get into playing softball with the Raiders, and I even played in my first actual tournament yesterday in Richmond!  Admittedly, we didn’t do that great (loss 3, won 1), but we had a good day of it and it was great to play several actual games, instead of just the usual training sessions.  And it was terrific to get to know a few more of my fellow Raiders.

And today, I get to play some more, as today is the start of the Raider’s Sunday League, where there are teams comprised of people from all skill levels playing against each other.  It’ll be a great way to meet even more new people, which was the whole point of my joining this group: getting to socialize with other gay people outside of the bar scene, and getting some exercise at the same time.

As for work, well… I’m not going to go into that right about now.  You just never know who may be watching…

And as for my social/dating life .. well, there has been some stuff going on there lately, but I’m not going to go into it at the moment in order to protect the innocent.  The last thing I’d ever want to do is to hurt anyone…

So .. I think that’s it for the moment.  Again, sorry I haven’t been able to post more often lately.  But that will change very shortly.



The Stress of it all


This has been one hell of a stressful week, and I just need it all to go away, or be resolved or something.

As I mentioned in my last posting (The Secret’s Out), my friend James and I are trying to get approval for a flat near Victoria Station, and I was advised I’d need a guarantor for my portion of the rent since I’m on a temporary contract at work.

The problem now is I don’t know for sure if my dad will actually do it for me.  He’s never been very comfortable giving out his personal details, and I found out yesterday, in order for him to be my guarantor, he’d have to give out banking information to the estate agent’s/reference processing company.  I’ve sent him a couple emails explaining the entire situation, but I honestly don’t know if he’ll do it for.

To be honest, it be a tad odd if he didn’t.  I’m sure he’s helped out my older 2 sisters at some point, and I know he’s offered my younger sister to be a co-signer for a mortgage when her and my brother-in-law were looking into it last year.  What makes it different, the fact that I’m single, living in London, or that I’m gay.  Not sure ..

All through Friday, I was constantly checking my email on my iPhone, waiting patiently for the estate agent to send me the form for my dad.  And as I write this on Sunday afternoon, I am STILL waiting.

When I spoke to him on Friday, he said he’d like to get all of this sorted over the weekend, so we could just concentrate on moving in, and I’d love that too.  If only he’d follow up on his word and get me the paperwork already.

I hate waiting.

My Broken Mobile – Getting a PAC code


Alright, so here’s the latest installment in my mobile saga.  As I last  wrote, I recently bought myself an iPhone to replace my broken Pay-As-160px-orange_logoYou-Go phone on the Orange network.

Well, for the last week I’ve been trying to cancel that phone and move my number to the iPhone on the O2 network.  I’ve called several times now, and each time I’ve been given the run-around.  And it’s really starting to piss me off!!!

You see, in or100px-o2_logosvgder to move your number to another provider, you’re required to get a PAC code from your current one.  ‘A PAC (Porting Authorisation Code) is a unique identifier which mobile and fixed-line telephone network providers (in the UK and various other countries) issue to a customer so they can port their number to another network.’ (Yes, that is copied from Wikipedia … figured if I was going to put info on here, it might as well be the correct info…)ofcom-logo

Now, again as per our friend Wikipedia, here are the rules with issuing PAC codes, as per Ofcom (independent regulator and competition authority for the communication industries in the United Kingdom) :

  1. Your current Service Provider must give you a Porting Authorisation Code (PAC) or a reason why it cannot be issued within 2 working days of your request. You can obtain your PAC by calling the customer service group of your current network. Usually your network operator will be able to provide your PAC over the phone and will then follow this up in writing.
  2. Your PAC is valid for a period of 30 calendar days and your request must be submitted to your new Service Provider within that time.
  3. Your number can then be transferred anytime between 2 and 32 calendar days from the date your PAC is issued.

Now, apparently Orange has changed the rules about issuing PAC codes to their customers who want to move their number to another provider:

As of 2006 Orange have changed their policy on Porting Authorisation Codes such that they will no longer issue them over the phone. If you request a PAC from Orange they will send it out via a letter, through Post which can take 5 to 7 working days excluding the bank holidays. If customer doesn’t receive the PAC within that period then Orange Sends PAC through a Text Message. Orange claims that this is an OFCOM requirement and Subject to Orange Policies. Caution – if you decide not to use your PAC within 30 days, then your contract will not terminate.

According to that same Wikipedia page, most of the other UK providers don’t make their customer’s jump through hoops in order to move their telephone number over.  Orange seems to be the only ones trying to make it difficult.

Now, technically it has been 5 business days since I initially requested the PAC from Orange, which would mean they are in violation of the Ofcom rule of having the PAC issued within 2 working days.

The first time I called for it, I was told I’d have to wait for a minimum of 24 hours until my ‘account was registered’, which didn’t make any sense to me since I’d been using my phone for over 4 months.  How could it not be registered?

And then, most recently, when I called this afternoon, I was transferred twice, and then placed on hold for well over 40 minutes, only to be told the department I needed to speak to was ‘too busy’, and that someone would call me back within 24 hours … solely to verify my name and address.  (Note: After reading the Wikipedia site, this now makes more sense to me … doesn’t mean I like it though)

To be honest, I’m wondering if it’s even worth the hassle.  I’ve been given a temporary number with O2 (no clue what it is…), so maybe I’ll just have to say screw Orange and forget about moving my number.

And this after I FINALLY memorized my current number … only took me 4 1/2 months.

I’ll keep ya posted.  😉

My Broken Mobile – My New iPhone


So, as I wrote before, my mobile broke on me and I needed to decide what I wanted to do about it.

Well, it took me about a week, but I finally made a decision over the past couple of days and I went after work to Oxford Street … and bought myself the 16GB iPhone.

In fact, I’m writing this post on it right now. Pretty cool huh?

The only thing is trying to get used to typing on this thing! LOL

My Broken Mobile


So… today being the first day back to work, odds are there was something that was going to go wrong.  At first, I thought it was that I left my work pass at home.  And then I thought it might have been how the trains were about 20 minutes delayed this morning … over a miniscule amount of snow.  (Snow?  In London?!?  What a rarity!).

But in the end, it was the dreaded ‘things come in threes’ rule – the display on my mobile broke somehow.

I was on my way back to the training room and pulled out my phone to check the time, only to find I couldn’t see anything at all.  The screen had gone all white, and there was a line running vertically through it.

So off I went after work down to Oxford Street to go to one of the Orange locations.  Sure, I could have went anywhere in town, but I wanted to do some shoe shopping as well, and I was sure there’d still be a few decent sales on the high street.  lol

Anyway, I went into the Orange store just outside of Bond Street Station, to be told by one of the employees that they could definitely fix my phone (YAY!), as long as I had the receipt since it was still within 12 months from puchase (umm… what did I do with that 4 months ago?)…. and that they’d have to send it off for the repair, which would take at least 5 to 10 days (WHAT?!?!?!?!)!

Can you tell I didn’t like that answer?  I don’t know if I could survive that long without my phone.

So, this same employee starts to tell me I should go to this little souvenier shop that unlocks SIM cards, and that they would be able to fix it for me, for probably about £15 pounds.  I went across to the store, only to be told that the guy at Orange was wrong, and that it would cost £30 … and for that amount I could have a new phone, the same model even.

A bit later, after my shoe shopping, I went into another Orange store a bit farther down on Oxford Street, and they basically told me the same thing, only they also mentioned that Carphone Warehouse fixed phones as well, but it could be expensive.

So off I went to the closest one of those stores (across the street at the next corner), only that have to wait about 20 minutes before I could get to an employee to ask about getting the phone fixed … and they told me they’d charge me £45, but would be done the same day.  Except their repair department was closed at the moment due to a system issue.

And now I’m stuck with a decision regarding my phone.

  • Do I have Orange fix my phone, praying it’s still under the warranty and that I can survive a week without it?
  • Do I go to that shop (or one like it) and have them fix it for £30?
  • Do I go to Carphone Warehouse and have them fix it for £45?
  • Or do I go ahead and buy myself a new phone?  And do I buy the same phone or something new?

I think I’m leaning towards a new phone, but I can’t decide if I should get a completely new phone, and if I should bother to stick with Orange.  I haven’t minded their service, but I wouldn’t mind going for something a bit more high-tech (no, I’m not getting an iPhone… I think).

I so need to decide this ASAP.  Any ideas?