Making Plans

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Ok… pet-peeve time.

Am I the only one who gets frustrated with people who’ll agree to potential plans but won’t seem to narrow down a date or time?  Where it feels like there’s more back and forth about when to meet up than there should be?

Why is it so damn hard to pinpoint when and where to meet up with someone?  It isn’t rocket-science after all.

This isn’t a new frustration for me.  I may not be the most decisive person, but I definitely prefer to have a solid idea of what it going on instead of the general vagueness that most seem to live with.  I like to know where and when I need to be somewhere, instead of this floating around some seem to do.

The best example of this is when people say we should ‘hang out sometime’ but never really narrow down when they’d like this to happen.  And god forbid they actually make the effort to actually arrange something.

Maybe this is done as a ‘place-marker’ so they don’t have to actually commit to anything.  Or so they can see if a better offer comes along.  But to then turn around later on and complain that the other person didn’t plan anything, it’s a piss off because they had the opportunity and didn’t even try.

I suppose a lot of people out there (myself included probably) are just waiting on someone else to make the first move in arranging something.  This could be a laziness issue (me LOL), a fear of rejection (me again…), or their lives are already so busy that they don’t have the time to actually plan something (everyone else it seems…).

And speaking of those with the over-active diaries and social lives… They seem quick to say something about meeting up, but never seem to be able to say when they’re available when asked.  And then a month or two down the line, the same conversation starts all over again with the same results.

Or if they do make plans, they don’t seem to even narrow down when it’ll actually happen on the day.  For example, I was chatting to an online mate one Saturday morning about finally meeting up in person for a coffee, and to me the implication was it was going to be earlier rather than later as he said he had things to do later in the afternoon.

But instead they continued to be vague throughout the day about what’s going on and whether or not it was actually going to happen.  The messages back and forth never set down exactly when they wanted to meet up, and it was a lot of ‘I’ll let you know when..’ sort of things.

And to me, that’s the rudest thing you can do to a person.  How self-involved can one person be that they expect the other to just sit around waiting on them to decide they’re finally ready to meet up?  Do they think they’re that important that the world should wait on them?

I may not have had much planned for that day, but I definitely didn’t expect to spend my whole afternoon waiting on him to finally show up just past 4pm.  I had other options for the afternoon and could have done one of them instead.

Oh and if we agree to meet up, then please know WHERE we need to meet.  Don’t tell me it’s around such-and-such area only for me to travel across town to get there, and then an hour or so later you tell me it’s actually a different area that I could have gotten to easily.  And you’re already there waiting for me.

Or when I’m already en-route to where you’d agreed to meet but you suddenly change the location and it’s totally in the opposite direction.  Meaning I now have to spent time re-determining how to get there, and probably back-tracking on myself to get there.

And please, do expect a slap if you even THINK of complaining I’m late after all that shit.  LOL

Manners maketh the man, people…

 

5 thoughts on “Making Plans

  1. Whenever I find myself in the situation that you just described, I’ll propose a date that the person may or may not agree to, then I’ll suggest another. After that, I let them know it’s their turn to offer a date, time and place. If they are vague, I just let go of the idea and tell them to contact me when they regain control of their schedule. That removes the responsibility to their shoulders and allows me to get on with my business.

    BTW: when Aaron and I met, it was always “let’s do this” or else, “let’s go here.” Then, I woke up and we were married! Moral: always pay attention to what you commit. 🙂 Naked hugs!

    • Yeah I do the same when their schedules are so packed.. I’ll tell them to let me know when they’re free but never hear anything back. So stop bothering to try.. which leads to those frustrating ‘why don’t I ever see you anymore’ conversations.

      Guess with you and Aaron tgere wasn’t that barrier of figuring out schedules, it just clicked.. lucky buggers lol

  2. Just this weekend we ran into a couple that we’ve been inviting the shit out of and they NEVER can get together because they ALWAYS have something going on. I’ve gotten tired and stopped and, of course, when we ran into then it was the ol’ we need to get together……ARG!

    • Yep… I get that ALL the time because I’ve just given up trying with these people. But yet I’m the one made to feel bad for not making an effort 😐

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