Everyone deals with stress, anxiety or depression in different ways, and there’s no true set rule on how to deal with any of them. We’ve all read countless online self-help articles touting themselves as being the ultimate list of how to do this or that.. when in reality, most are just rehashes of the same things over and over again.
One thing does ring true though regardless of which articles you read – If you don’t at least give them a shot, then you’ll never know if they truly make you feel more positive about your life, or even help move you down the road to your own happiness.
Side note – Happiness isn’t necessarily a destination, but more of a state of being. And everyone’s ideal of happiness is different, so find your own happiness. 🙂
What is mental wellbeing?
Per the below NHS site, mental wellbeing is defined as such:
“Feeling happy is a part of mental wellbeing. But it’s far from the whole. Feelings of contentment, enjoyment, confidence and engagement with the world are all a part of mental wellbeing. Self-esteem and self-confidence are too.
“So is a feeling that you can do the things you want to do. And so are good relationships, which bring joy to you and those around you.
“Of course, good mental wellbeing does not mean that you never experience feelings or situations that you find difficult. But it does mean that you feel you have the resilience to cope when times are tougher than usual.”
–Sarah Stewart-Brown, Professor of Public Health at the University of Warwick
Like anything in life, the more you put into something like your own well being, the more you’re likely to get out of it. And if you’re waiting on someone else to ‘give’ you happiness, you’ll be waiting for your entire life.
Steps to Mental Wellbeing
Below are a few suggestions we could all take to boost how we’re doing. As previously mentioned, this isn’t an exhaustive list and some may work better for some people than others.
Connect with others
All too often when we’re feeling down or a bit blue, we’ll find ourselves pulling away from our loved ones. Instead reach out to the people around you, be them family, friends, colleagues or neighbours. Just be willing to make that step to open up the lines of communication.
This isn’t necessarily about going to the gym or starting some massive work out regime. It’s more about just finding an activity that you enjoy and incorporate into you daily life – take a walk, go for a bike ride, go for a swim, and so forth.
Sometimes all you might need is to boost your own wellbeing is to engage your mind in something constructive. It could be learning a new skill, taking a hobby class , getting that certification you’ve been dreaming about. Or maybe just read that book gathering dust on your bedside table.
Volunteering your time
Being a volunteer in any capacity can not only help you feel like you’re contributing more to your community, but it’s a goldmine for networking. But you don’t even have to go so far as to actually volunteer – sometimes the smallest thing, like smiling at a stranger or giving a kind word to something, can make the world a difference.
Be in the present
This could be called ‘mindfulness’, but it’s mostly about being aware of what is going around you at any given moment. This can include the world around you, local/national/international politics, your thoughts or feelings, and most importantly, your own body. However, don’t allow yourself to get so immersed in this that you block out other parts of life, as that’ll have an averse affect.
This post has been influenced by — Five steps to mental wellbeing – Stress, anxiety and depression – NHS choices