Life can be hard when you’re an introvert, especially in the gay community where those pesky sexy extroverts are getting all the guys you’d love to meet. And sometimes it can make an introvert wonder whether they’ll ever get their turn at the big relationship-roundabout.
All too often introverts will try to push themselves to be more outgoing (especially at the prodding from their more extroverted friends) and make themselves seem more ‘interesting’ to try and rope in that hot guy.
Unfortunately that’s always doomed to failure, as you’re truly not being yourself. You’re an introvert and always will be. And here’s why you’re best to just be yourself.. even if some may consider you ‘anti-social’.
Introverts make great listeners.. but hate small talk
Ever notice how some people will fade back while amongst a group of people chatting about the usual mundane things in life. That person, most likely, is an introvert since most find wading through that chitchat almost painful. It’s not always that they don’t have anything to contribute to the conversion, but more that they’d just rather not be bothered.
But start talking about the bigger things in life, be it politics, religious freedoms, immigration, or any other such topics, and the introvert will be more than willing to yak your ear off. Introverts are thinkers, and are able to fully form opinions about a variety of important topics.
Crowds – love ’em & hate ’em
A lot of introverts have issues being in big crowds of people, be it at some packed club or at some huge house party. They love being included, but sometimes have to fight their anxieties to jump into the middle of things.
But don’t think the introvert isn’t capable of having fun, because they’ll do their best to enjoy themselves and dance the night away. It just may be that they’ll keep themselves to the outskirts of the main festivities instead of being in the thick of things.
Oh, and their idea of a truly good time? Chilling in a cool pub with a few good mates, where they can talk without having to shout at each other.
Truly personal connections are special
A lot of people just write introverts off as being anti-social, which couldn’t be farther from the truth. The reality is they sometimes have difficulty allowing themselves to open up to others, especially those who they’ve just met.
And it’s more than just a trust issue. Introverts instinctively can tell who they can show their vulnerable side to, and who they can just laugh with without revealing too much of themselves. And when an introvert does open themselves up to someone, then that means they see that person as special and precious to them.
Huge flirt vs just being friendly
As much as introverts protest, everyone always thinks they’re a massive flirt because they’re not ones to hide behind a façade. They’re the most authentic and genuine people you’ll ever meet, and they’ll always be the ones to tell you how it is without any double entendres. But yet your boyfriend will always drag you away from an introvert in a fit of jealousy.
Quality over quantity
Most introverts have an innate ability to smell the bullshit being spewed around them, and because of that, they’re probably the best people to go to for some quality, no-nonsense advise about most anything. A lot of them can tell when something has been done to a sub-par standard, and are quite adept at telling the fakers from those being genuine.
Man of mystery
In this day and age of over-sharing (online or in person), introverts are seen as being closed off from others and having an air of mystery about them. A lot of this has to do with an introvert’s unavoidable requirement of being self-sufficient or independent from those around them, even if it makes people think they’re just being a ‘loner’. It all adds to their inexplicable appeal.
Introverts aren’t the best at selling themselves, usually allowing for their work to speak for itself when it comes to their work life. As for their personal life, they’re more likely to give a generic ‘I’m alright’ when asked how they’re doing, instead of spilling whatever drama they’re going through at the time.
They’d rather watch Netflix
Introverts aren’t that great at coming up with those witty Facebook statuses we all love to ‘Like’, though do come up with a few zingers from time to time. Instead they’d much rather chill out, watch a movie, catch that new documentary, or have one of their famous Netflix marathons.
They’re regularly friend-zoned
Because introverts are great at listening and being there for their friends and family, they regularly get placed in the proverbial friend box. And this is usually despite all their moaning they just want to find a ‘nice guy’, despite the fact that you’re right there ready for the plucking with a massive crush.
Time causes panic
As introverts get older, they start to realise that they’ve spent hardly anytime socialising or spending it with their friends or family. And because they tend to over-think things, they’ll start wondering all sorts of things about their lives – Will I ever find a husband? Where did all my friends go? How’d did I lose touch all these people? Do I even care anymore?
All in all, introverts are loving and amazing people who just need those around them to realise how fantastic they are, and make a bit of effort to crack that closed-off exterior.
This article is inspired by –> 10 Signs You’re Actually a Gay Introvert (Even Though You Try Not to Be) – GayGuys.com