Dating is never an easy thing. Meeting someone new for the first time can be quite daunting, and the desire to make a good impression can be high.. sometimes to the point where you can try to hard.
Dating should be a fun and exciting part of life, so why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to ensure we connect with our date?
Here are a few things you can do to ensure things end on a more positive note.
To drink or not to drink..
Probably the easiest thing to do on a date is to meet for a drink in a bar, pub or restaurant as they’re meant to be social places. The problem is sometimes guys will tend to drink to much as a way to relax or loosen themselves up.. and nobody wants a messy date.
A date is a social engagement, and if you’re pissed off your tits, then you’re more likely to be jarringly obnoxious as you waffle on like some aging party boy instead of being your truly interesting and personable self. There’s no race, so don’t try to down your pint in one go. Keep it to a drink or two, and only if the other person is having one as well.
The best thing to do when setting a place to meet on a date is that it’s both convenient and beneficial to you both. For instance, if one of you lives in North London and the other in South London, the logical thing to do is to arrange to meet somewhere in the middle, and not one that only benefits one person location-wise.
And as important as location is, the atmosphere of where you meet is super important as well. The last thing you want is to be in a popular crowded pub where you can’t hear each other, so why not pick a more out of the way place that’s quieter. As well, you don’t want to pick somewhere either of you might be likely to bump into someone you know. The last thing you need is someone trying to edge in on your private time together.
Know when to make a (sexual) move
There’s nothing less sexy or enticing than a guy who goes in for a kiss or a grope in an inappropriate location or too soon into the date. There’s nothing wrong with a bit of a public display of affection, but don’t be going in for a deep, wet snog right away.
Oh and as for those roaming hands of yours? How about you keep them to yourself while we’re just getting to know each other, especially when we’re in public. There’s more to meeting someone for a date than sex, so no need to go into intricate details of your sex life or what positions you enjoy or even that thing you did on holidays that you probably shouldn’t have.
Don’t be a Judge Judy
Part of getting to know someone new is learning what makes that person tick, as well as what they consider their limits to be. And we’re not talking sexually either. Some people hate certain words, especially the more derogative swear words, and you really need to pay attention when they say they hate that word.. not continue to work it into the conversation.
As well, if the conversation turns to politics, religion, or any other potentially explosive topic, don’t let it get your back up and judge them for their views on life. We’re all different people so are allowed to have differing points of view. Be willing to have an open conversation, not try to take them down because their view is different than yours.
Be real and keep your promises
If you’re truly interested after the first date and genuinely would like to see them again, then tell them. Don’t leave them hanging, waiting for you to say something. There’s nothing wrong with putting yourself out there, just be careful to not get too attached too soon.
As well, if they tell you they’re interested in seeing you again and you’re not, then say so (NICELY!!). There’s no point dangling the carrot in front of them if you’re never willing to follow it through.
Oh and for goodness sake, stop trying the whole playing ‘hard-to-get’ thing. It really doesn’t work. If a guy doesn’t message back, it’s not a game move. It means they’re not interested, plain and simple.
This post was inspired by – How To Make A Good Impression On Your Date – GayGuys.com