Sometimes life can get way too busy and before you know it, weeks and months have passed since you last chatted to this friend or that one. Is it just a matter that you’ve gotten too embroiled in your day-to-day lives that you ‘forget’ to keep in contact with certain people?
I try my best to keep in contact with people, but it isn’t always easy. I find it hard because no matter how much you try to keep in contact with some people or arrange to do things together, they’re just always too busy to meet up. And in some cases, too busy to even return a simple text message.
From my perspective, it seems these people all have their close-knit group of friends and regularly do things together, despite some people’s insistence that they never ‘plan’ anything. Or at least that’s the response I get when I ask I wasn’t invited along.
I admit, I’m horrible at making plans weeks or months in advance, unless it’s something big. Generally I get to Friday afternoon and realise once again I don’t have anything planned for the weekend, so I send off a bunch of messages to see what people are up to only to get a load of ‘I’ve got plans’ replies.
I was told a few months back by one of these ‘too busy’ friends that perhaps people don’t include me because I don’t make the effort to invite them to things, to plan something for a bunch of people to do together. Or perhaps they’ve just assumed I either wouldn’t be interested in what they’re doing or that I have my own group of friends to hang out with.
Ummm… what utter bullshit, huh?
So I tried an experiment that ended with my own disappointment – I created a Facebook event over a month ago and invited a bunch of people to it. It was to celebrate the 400th anniversary of Shakespeare’s death, with a light and sound show at Guildhall Yard (event details HERE).
I thought it be fun and interesting, and something different to do on a Saturday evening (aka tonight).
Mostly people put themselves down as a maybe, with a few saying outright they couldn’t go and one friend saying they would join me. Even if just that one friend came, it would make it worth it really. And perhaps a step forward for me I think.
But fast forward to this past Thursday when I posted in the event suggesting where and when we could all meet, and asking everyone to confirm if they were coming or not.
And this is where the disappointment set in – not a single person could make it for whatever reason. Some explained, but most didn’t at all. And that one friend who said he’d come? He pulled out as well, saying he was too busy this weekend (he’s taking a masters while working full time so spends his spare time studying).
Which left me with nobody to go to this thing with. I even messaged a couple of non-Facebook friends to see if they were interested, but nothing. So come last night I up and cancelled the Facebook event and now am not even going myself. It wasn’t exactly the type of thing you go to alone.
So what is a guy to do when all he wants to do is spent time with his friends and those friends are too busy to hang out? I’ve barely been out of the house the past month and a half, and as much as I love quiet time at home, it’s really getting to me.
A person can only spend so much time by themselves before they start going stir-crazy.. or (over)thinking that perhaps he’s wasting his time on trying to get those ‘friends’ to spend time with him.
Life can be hard when you’ve tons of friendship to give and there’s nobody to give it to.