Like a lot of people out there, I tend to dwell on the negative things that happen in my life. And the more I think on things, the worse they make me feel and build upon the already negative feelings I’m having.
This, of course, isn’t a healthy or great way to deal with negativity in my life. But sometimes it’s not as easy as just flipping a switch to stop thinking so negative. It takes a lot of work to turn my attitude around, and sometimes if it’s been built up too much, then it’s near impossible to see the forest through the trees.
When I’m feeling negatively about something, I tend to get angry about it as well and wanting to lash out at something (or someone)… Which usually does more harm than good in the long run, so best to not allow myself to get to that point. Not an easy feat at times.
So what is one to do if they’re starting to feel negative? Well, why not try a few of these tips.
Shake that booty
As much as I hate hearing people say exercise is the best way to release tension and refocus your energy, you can’t help but agree the amazing rush you get when you get yourself out there and move around. It doesn’t have to be a full-on work out, but could be as simple as going for a walk, try a bit of yoga, go for a bike ride. Or even as simple as putting on your favourite dance tracks and dancing around your bedroom. It gets the endorphins surging for a bit and allows your body to pull away from your mind.
For some people, myself included, writing out your feelings can be very therapeutic. You may think that it’ll just bring you closer to the negativity you’re feeling, but that’s only while you’re writing them down. Just the exercise of getting the words out can do you a wonder of good, as it allows you to look at the situation from a different perspective. And perhaps allow you to actually work through that negativity in a more creative way.
Give someone a hand
There’s no better feeling you can get than when you’ve helped out a fellow human being with someone. It be helping a mate move house or paint their new place, or even as simple as cat-sitting for a friend while they’re away.
Or if you want to take it further, there are numerous volunteer opportunities in your community, which allows you to make a more tangible positive difference in someone’s life.
In the end, helping someone else out can be very fulfilling and help you fill your head with new positivity. It’ll also get you out of your cave and give you a chance to interact with others who need you.
No news is good news
Let’s be honest – there isn’t a lot of positivity shown on the nightly news, so if you’re already feeling a bit down, then turn it off. Don’t even watch it, regardless of how intrigued you are about certain events occurring around the world. The last thing you need is to feed your negative feelings with stories of war, murder, closed-minded politics or any other horrible thing they show each night.
Instead turn your brain onto something different, something beautiful and positive. Read your favourite novel. Watch your favourite movie. Listen to your most uplifting diva. Basically seek out the good stuff in life, and let the positivity take over your being.
Show those pearly whites
We’ve all heard that tired cliched saying ‘Turn that frown upside down’, usually from someone who doesn’t know what to say about what you’re going through. And as lame as you may think that advise it, it’s actually quite valid. Making yourself smile and laugh can be contagious, and before you know it, you’re feeling right as rain.
Turning your negative attitudes and feelings back into something more positive takes energy and effort on your part. So go ahead and put the effort in. Because in the end, you’ll only have yourself to thank for your own happiness.
This post was inspired by: You can control your attitude by Brian Tracy with article by Scott Stabile