Whether you’ve been in a relationship or not, it’s pretty much common knowledge that they take a lot of work. Regardless of the connection or commitment to each other, there will always been some issues that crop up, but it’s a matter of know how to best deal with them and move past them.
And sometimes it’s all about how you act towards your new partner. So here are a few helpful tips.. but of course, each relationship is unique.
Going Too Fast
Let’s be honest.. the quickest way to turn off your potential new partner is to jump in too deep, too quickly. Just because you had a fantastic time on your date and had a lovely good-night kiss (or even more amorous activities hehe), it doesn’t mean you’ll be together forever. You have to let things happen naturally, you really can’t force things.
On the other hand, if you take it so slow that your new partner starts to think you’re not interested, then you may end up losing them to someone new. That’s not to say you should immediately become more physically or emotionally entangled, but at some point once that connection has been made, it’s best to move things along a bit. Even if it’s just a small step at a time. Whatever pace works for both of you.
Not Finding the Time
Life can be busy for all of us at times. But if you’re not making an effort to find time for your significant other (or even dating itself), it makes the other person feel like they’re less important than other things in your life, and you’re bound to drift apart. Relationships need time and effort to prosper, and if you can’t find time for your sweetie, then they won’t be your sweetie for long.
A Lack of Boundaries
Boundaries aren’t just about how you interact with each other, but how much outside intrusion you allow into your relationship. Clear expectations need to be set for each other, including how much (or little) meddling you allow in, as well as boundaries with each other.
In the beginning, we always go out of our way to make the other person feel important.. So where did that go? Regardless if the relationship is new or you’ve been together for decades, always do something to make the other person feel special and don’t let the humdrum daily routine to take that away from you.
Trying to Change the Other Person
We all have certain expectations when it comes to our potential partners, and as long as you’re wiling to compromise to some degree then it’ll all go swimmingly. But if you’re rigid in your ideals and continually try to make the other person fit into some mould that you ‘think’ is your ideal person, then you’re probably setting yourself up for failure in the long run.
Not Giving Your Partner Enough Space
Relationships are hard, and sometimes you each need to take some time apart. Even if you don’t really want to. Without being a mindreader, you need to keep an eye out for cues from your partner and just back off for a bit when they need a bit of space. You can’t force togetherness 24/7, as even the happiest of couples need some time apart. It’s healthy for both of you, as well as the relationship.
Having No Life Outside the Relationship
And off the back of that point, you can’t cut yourself off from your friends and loved ones from before you started the relationship. And you can’t expect your partner to do that either. It’s healthy to continue to have friends outside the relationship, even if they’re mutual friends. And not just friends, but also maintain the interests and hobbies you had before. You can’t stop being you just because you’ve found someone special.
And let’s be honest, sometimes you just need that best friend to talk to, as some topics may be a bit outside the boundaries with your new cutie. 😉
This post has been influenced by the article –> 8 Biggest Relationship Mistakes | The Daily 8