Like most people, I tend to be a bit of an emotional sponge when it comes to other people’s energies. Perhaps I unwittingly mirror their attitude or demeanour on a subconscious level, allowing myself to be sucked into their negativity.
As well, I think I can at times project my own bad mood on others, causing them to come down to my level. It’s something I try hard to not let happen, but sometimes it just does.
Ultimately we all need to do our best to find ways to maintain our own positivity, while shielding yourself from the negativity bombarding you from all around.
Take responsibility for yourself.
It’s ways too easy to fall into someone else’s negative attitude and allow it to wash over you. For instance, who hasn’t had a co-worker who’s constantly berating everything around them – job, company, workload, boss, etc. And as they spew their negative views, you want to be support by listening or giving them some advise, but next thing you know you’ve joined them on their downward spiral.
Only you can and should be able to control how you’re feeling at any given moment. As often as we get testing by life around us, you need to make a conscious decision to not allow that negativity impact you, your life or your attitude. It may not always be easy, but it’ll be worth it longterm.
There’s a reason people will tell you to take a deep breath when you’re feeling frustrated or upset about something. Just the act of breathing itself can be very therapeutic, and can help you clear out the negative energy that has affected your mood.
The best thing you can do when the negativity is creeping up on you is to stop what you’re doing or thinking, sit back, and take a nice big deep breath, and then slowly let all of it go. Sometimes you may need to change locations before doing so, and that’s ok. Get a bit of fresh air and allow it to revitalise your energy.
Generally when a negative person is going on about who horrible things are, all they’re really doing is looking for an audience to bring down with them. For some it may be intentional, but others may not realise they’re doing it.
They literally are looking for someone to absorb their negativity, so why give them the satisfaction?
We all know negative people will continue to be that way no matter what you say to them, so why not just ignore them. It’ll pop their balloon in a way, and allow you to get on with your day.
You can’t make everyone happy.
If someone constantly complains about their life or whatnot, then all they’re really looking for is someone to bring down to their level not for you to help them work through their issue, realistic or not.
Ultimately you can’t make everyone happy. Really, you can’t, no matter how hard you try. When you give into these attention-seekers, you allowing yourself to get sucked in and allowing them to attack your own positive energy.
You need to work at maintaining your own upbeat attitude, and not allow these negative people waylay you from your own happiness.