Too often we let perceptions of who we are, be them our own or from others, cloud our view of ourselves. Who hasn’t looked at themselves in the mirror and been overly critical of their body, or lament that they wish they could look like someone else?
We are all guilty of a bit of self-hate, myself included, but what we need to do is focus on the positive aspects of ourselves that make us truly attractive to ourselves and others around us.
And let’s be clear – being considered attractive is a completely different than how one perceives beauty, as it isn’t necessarily about physical beauty. It’s more about you as a person and how you treat those around you.
Let your heart shine through
These days it’s almost social suicide to show any sort of emotions, let alone that you actually care about another person. Genuine care and concern for another’s well-being can make all the difference for someone who’s going through a bad patch or is feeling alone in the world. Compassion is key.
Build strength from your past
Life generally isn’t easy so you have to be able to stand tall and show the world that you can take on anything it throws at you. All of us have difficult situations and struggles we have to get past, and the more capable you are at doing so, the stronger you’ll be as you continue to move through life.
You’ve got to move forward, dust yourself off, and use these difficult situations to build yourself up to better handle anything else that may be tossed your way in the future.
Smiling is infectious
There is nothing more attractive than someone sporting a genuine smile. Show off your pearly whites. Grin from ear to ear. Let your smile take over your whole face. It’s what will attract people to you, as it shows your happiness and love of life.
And sometimes when a complete stranger gives you a quick cheeky smile, you just can’t help but return it.
You have a brain and you use it
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There is nothing more attractive than someone who uses their wit and intelligence in everyday interactions. And those that continue to search to improve their knowledge bump things up even more.
As well, use that intellect and thirst for knowledge to feed your curiosity about the world around you. Never be afraid to ask ‘why’ about things you see, hear or read about. You just never know what you may learn.
But be careful not to come across as a smarty-pants or know-it-all, as that’s a huge turn off. Instead use your intellect to engage others in meaningful and interesting conversations. Conversations can be fun as well as informative, so don’t just restrict yourself to solely cerebral topics.
Laughter is the best medicine
Whether you giggle like a school-girl, enjoy a good belly laugh, or even let loose the occasion snort, life is worth laughing at. There’s more than enough darkness in the world, so why not laugh at the silliness around you. Share the giggles, tickle someone else’s funny-bone, and spread the joy to those around you.
Everyone is entitled to their opinions, even if it’s not something you agree with or think is right. But that’s ok, because your ability to be open-minded to another’s perspective and see where the other person is coming from is a truly attractive quality and will show a mutual respect between you.
And that’s ultimately more important and attractive than being ‘right’.
Being grateful for your life and appreciative of those who help you in life is incredibly attractive. That thankfulness will fill you more emotionally and spiritually than anything else you may be able to obtain to fill whatever void you may have.
And let’s be honest – if you’re not appreciative of those around you, how can you expect them to continue to be there for you in the future.
You are you
Just be yourself. Only you can be you, so why not be the best ‘you’ you can possibly be? Love yourself. Be comfortable in your body. Be confident through your actions and your smile. Remind yourself you are beautiful just the way you are, and don’t let anyone else tell you differently.
You are wonderful just the way you are, so why change that? Embrace yourself, perceived warts and all, and let the world see you who you truly are. Life your life for you and don’t let anyone else’s misconceptions of how you should life it sway you.