It’s not easy being single these days.
It’s lonely, can lead to feelings of jealousy for those who’ve found someone, and in extreme circumstances, can lead to depression for some.
Most of this is due to the negative thoughts and ideas running around our heads as to why we’re still single, while it seems like everyone else around us are happily paired up.
Instead of sitting around waiting for that elusive ‘Mr Right’ (or ‘Ms Right’, depending on what you’re looking for lol), get out there and enjoy your life. Cut the negative thoughts, get happy and start loving yourself and your single freedom.
Here’s a few things to do while you’re still single..
Start living in the now
Instead of daydreaming about your perfect partner and wasting your time wondering when they’ll show up, why not think about yourself? Take stock of where you are in your life and where you want to go in the future.
What goals do you want to achieve over the next year or so? Have you planned your next holiday? Are there any old or distant friends you’d like to visit? Is there something you’ve always wanted to do but never had the chance or the nerve to do so?
Being single means you can plan and do anything you want. The world is out there waiting for you. Why not get out there and enjoy it.
You are the one and only version of you that there will ever be in the world. Your uniqueness and originality are part of who you are and everything you’ve achieved in your life. Nobody else can make you feel as whole of a person as you already are, so why don’t you go ahead and love yourself?
There is nobody else out there in the world who can make you feel whole, or give you anything that you don’t already have in your life to lead a full, happy and fulfilling life. Love who you are as a person, and what you contribute to the world around you. Nobody else can give you that validation any better than you can yourself.
Love your freedom
They say that the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you’ll have with yourself. When you’re single, you have the opportunity to do things for yourself that sometimes a partner wouldn’t be able to. Be a bit selfish and treat yourself to something special. Enjoy this time to take care of yourself and do what you want to do, when you want to do it.
Stop the negative reinforcements
When we’re feeling down or lonely, it’s all to easy to start criticising ourselves in a negative fashion. It could be calling ourselves names because we didn’t react well to something, or telling ourselves that there must be something wrong with us because we’re single or alone.
If you continue to do that, then you’re increasing the chances of making those negative thoughts become a reality as we attract what we put out in the world. Change the tone and feeling, and you’ll improve your chances.
Don’t neglect your friends and family
Never forget how precious your friends and family are, because once you do find someone amazing to date, you may not have as much time to spend with them. Instead take this time to plan things or organise a trip together. Those closest to you are the foundation of your social life, so never take them for granted or let them fall by the wayside.
Try something new
We all say we need to get out of our ruts and try something different. So, what are you waiting for? This is the perfect opportunity to get out there and do those things you’ve always wanted to do but never could. Life is all about building memories from the experiences in our lives, so go make some good ones.
Work towards some big goal
We all have goals in life, or at least dreams of goals we’d like to achieve. So what’s holding you back from achieving them? Maybe you’ve always wanted to publish a novel, or learn new language, or try your hand at the guitar, or take an interesting course to change careers, or anything else you can imagine yourself doing.
Write out the goal and set yourself a plan of action.. and then do a little bit of it every day. Six months to a year from now, you never know where that little bit of extra will take you.
Pretty much everyone out there (including you) has a story or two of the losers they’ve dated before they met someone special. That’s because this whole dating game is a process, and there’s no way to bypass it.
Be patient and allow yourself to go through the process. It’ll be worth it in the end.