As if being a single gay man and looking for love/lust/sex/whatever strikes your fancy through the various smartphones apps and online websites wasn’t daunting enough, but apparently we all need to be amateur porn stars too.
Or at least it can sometimes seem that way at times.
Although it’s really nothing that new, but these days everyone seems to have a few nudie pics of themselves and are sharing them with every Tom, Dick or Harry they chat to.
But is this a good or bad thing? At what point have we gone from being open about ourselves and our bodies to oversharing? Have we gone past the point of saving a bit of mystery for later on in the dating process?
Admittedly a large percentage of the guys using these apps are just looking for a hot shag, but is immediately opening your private pics or sending a couple of dick/ass shots the best way to start a new conversation? Whatever happened to saying ‘Hi’ first at the very least?
Now I don’t mind seeing a bit more of some hot guy at some point in the conversation, but not as an opening line. Is that supposed to make me fall to my knees and beg for it? Ummm, I don’t think so. LOL
I suppose everyone has their own comfort levels when it comes to sharing their naughty pics with whomever they’re chatting to, and that’s cool. For me, I want to get to know someone a bit more before I start seeing parts of them I’d rather discover in the bedroom.
And to be fair, I’m more interested in how they kiss and cuddle than if they’ve got a monster shlong, or pictures of them performing/receiving either oral or anal sex, or even what they look like when they’ve reached orgasm.
Yes, it’s happened on many occasions.. usually in video form lol.
As for my own pictures, I tend to only send them to those guys I’m actually interested in, if I send them at all. A few years ago I made the conscious decision to remove most (if not all) of my private pictures from the various sites/apps I’m on and replaced them with other pics of myself. Different face pics, or candid shots when out with friends. Pictures that I hope would show more about me and my personality.
Oh who am I kidding. Most of these guys online really aren’t interested in seeing our personalities. 😉
I do find it interesting (and more than a little bit sad) how we’ve moved away from actually getting to know each other to seemingly trying to determine sexual compatibility by looking at a few naughty pics. It’s as if, as gay men, we can’t decide to meet someone unless we’ve seen every naked pic of a guy from every conceivable angle.
Are we so obsessed with sex that we won’t even try to find emotional or mental connections with someone before deciding to exchange bodily fluids?
Or maybe I’m just an old-school hopeless romantic who misses the days when you’d meet people for actual dates before jumping in the sack. Mostly. 😉