Where’s My Motivation Gone?


Sometimes we go through periods of feeling completely unmotivated, and just floating through life.  Day after day, it feels like we’re not accomplishing anything and the longer we let things lay to the wayside, the harder it is to pick it up again.  And to stick to it.

That’s the way I’ve been feeling over the past few weeks, like I have no motivation to do anything.  Or at least anything productive.

And that’s not a bad thing either.  Most of us have fairly busy lives and don’t take the time to relax or unwind.  Sometimes when life gets super busy, we just need a break from everything to relax and enjoy a bit of time doing absolutely nothing.

And trust me, I’m an expert at doing absolutely nothing.  😉

The thing is though, after awhile it can become mind-numbingly boring and you end up feeling listless.  You float through your days, doing as little as possible, and in the end you can sometimes feel like you’ve wasted your time doing nothing.

no-motivationAt least that’s how I’ve been feeling lately.  I’ve barely been writing at all, I haven’t been to the gym in well over a month, and despite a bit of activity on the social side, I still tend to spend my days off with my butt fully entrenched on the sofa.

Obviously I’ve needed the break, but it isn’t really any different than how I usually spend my weekends when I’m busy.  It’s scary how easily I can spend a full weekend without leaving the house (other than sitting in the back garden), and having the days fly by while surfing the net or watching movies/tv.

And barely talking to anyone.

Funnily when I am busy and out of the house a lot, all I can think of is having some time to myself, alone at home so I can read or relax on the sofa (think there’s a permanent butt print taking shape..).

And when I have one of those weekends where I don’t leave the house or talk to anyone, I get desperately lonely for some company.  Not just someone to chat to, but someone to cuddle up with while sinking further into that comfy sofa.  But that’s a totally different issue to feeling unmotivated..

I suppose the point of all this is I need to get back to motivating myself to do things I enjoy, be them at home or out and about.  Alone or with a few mates, it doesn’t matter, as long as I’m getting somewhere.

CarrotAnd I suppose some of this feeling of floating through life comes from this feeling I’ve had for many years of not having a direction to push towards.  Of not having an end goal in sight.  Of feeling like I’m just marking time until something happens, instead of making things happen.

And that’s the key right there – I need to make things happen in my life for me and not because I think it’s what I should be doing.  I need to find something to strive towards, and not spend so much time moaning or bitching about what I don’t have in my life.

But how to decide on a course of action or what path to take?  What do I truly want to accomplish in life, or at least over the next couple of years?  What self-imposed barrier have I erected to stop myself from taking that leap of faith and going for what I truly want?  Why haven’t I finished that novel, that online course I started ages ago, or that series of erotic short stories?

Why am I so afraid I might fail?

I suppose it all boils down to a lack of self-confidence in my own abilities or feelings of worth.  And that anything I put out there would truly be worthy of others wanting to actually pay money for.  That since there’s not a huge amount of traffic on this site, that others wouldn’t want to buy something I put out there when they could come here to read for free..

I just need to take a leap of faith and go for it at some point.  Otherwise I’ll spend the rest of my life wishing I’d taken a chance or wondering if it would have been worth it.

Besides, isn’t it better to regret trying and failing, than never trying in the first place?


8 thoughts on “Where’s My Motivation Gone?

  1. Nice post I can relate to, Besides being the kind of person who absolutely needs a few hours each day to myself, I’m also in the midst of hauling myself out of a low, which I’ve allowed myself to wallow in for some weeks. But I need to snap out of it now before I sink deeper. It sucks and is frustrating.

    Is there some kind of writing club in your city you can join, so that you can meet people to check out each other’s writing for constructive feedback and motivation? Or something like that online, to encourage each other with deadlines for new chapters and stuff.

  2. ivansblogworld

    So as I said before I am always “giddy with excitement” when I see you new posts.

    I can relate to, being on your own and doing nothing, and spending time away from home on weekends is NOT my thing. I need to be at home. And maybe do something or not. William and myself can be in the house and not speak or see each other for hours as he does his thing with his toys “apple fan” and I do mine, read, a DIY project or sleep. However that sense that someone with you is so comforting.

    I also am in that “Iam not that confident person” reality. Maybe I am but I hate confrontation. William says I am just an arrogant spoiled brat, but maybe that’s my protection mechanism.

    Write that novel. Have you watched a year in the life with JK Rowling. Inspiration, I can relate to her crazy brain as I have a very busy mind and can draw a plan in my mind and then have to do a whole timetable and Implement it. Drives me insane as I cannot sleep at the best of times. I have though of writing a book on my life but in the third person. I really enjoy writing as it’s so different from my real job.

    Chat soon and hope work going strongly. And dream the impossible dream. Ivan.

    • I’m working on the motivation thing. I keep having ideas I want to work on, but never seem to start/finish them. And of course, once you’re away from something for awhile, it’s harder to restart.. but I’ll get there. 😀

  3. aguywithoutboxers

    Plan that nakation you posted about last week (I think). Get back to the draft of that novel. You, my friend, have the power to get yourself motivated. Take a walk through your neighborhood and then settle in, one step at a time. Much love and naked hugs, buddy! )

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