Dealing with any kind of physical or mental health issue can be difficult, exhausting and draining emotionally. A good chunk of your time is dealing with the issue itself and you can easily lose focus on the more important things in life, be it friends, family, work, loved ones, your health, and so forth.
This is especially true when dealing with mental health issues such as depression. The issue itself can sometimes take over your life, and if you’re not careful, you can become completely obsessed with the issue itself. It can create an ongoing loop of negative thoughts in your head that is difficult to break or shake off.
Of course the best thing is to ensure you have a good support base around you so you have people to talk to about what you’re going through. And it has to be the right kind of support as well..
Sometimes you just need to vent and get it off your chest, but occasionally when trying to explain how you are feeling with someone who isn’t going through it themselves, they try a bit too hard to try and knock you out of your mood.
They have the best intentions of course, but occasionally it can easily turn from a friendly ear to chat to or a shoulder to cry on, to someone trying to tell you how you should live your life. Though they are trying to be constructive and helpful, the person going through the issue can sometimes take that as a criticism of sorts even if it wasn’t meant that way.
The last thing a person going through a depressive period needs is someone trying to dictate to them how they should do things, as if they’ve never tried what they’re suggesting. Like they’re not trying to find a solution.
Though that can be the problem with dealing with depression, you sometimes get tunnel vision when it comes to the issue itself. As if what is happening to you at that time is the worst thing that could happen, and you can only see the negatives and worse case scenarios.
That is a difficult mindset to get out of, and if you’re not careful, it can become a never-ending downward spiral that makes it harder and harder to get out of, with or without support.
Of course finding someone who can be there for you when you’re going through such a period can be difficult at times, because some people just don’t know how to deal with someone who’s depressed. They think the best way to help that person is to leave them alone to deal with the issue, when in fact that can cause more harm than good. It makes the person going through the issue feel isolated, unloved, unwanted, and like they don’t matter to that person.
That’s not a fun feeling to have when you’re already going through a bad period, as it can sometimes heighten the feelings and issues you’re going through at the time… And perhaps make you think you’re justified in the negative feelings you’re having towards yourself at the time, because that ‘friend’ can’t or won’t be there to support you.
Ultimately only you yourself can truly pull yourself out of this downward spiral, as only you can change what is happening in your life or what is affecting your feelings. However it makes that journal to better mental health somewhat easier and more manageable when you’ve got someone at your side cheering you on and supporting you.
If you know someone who is going through a period such as this, do your best to just be there for them, support them, love them, hug them, remind them what is good about themselves or their lives. It helps.