Digital Dating – Guys You Meet Online


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While looking for love or something more casual on the dating and social media apps, you’re likely to run into a wide variety of people.  Some can be fun and interesting, while others can be annoying or possibly best avoided.

And some just seem to have a Jekyl & Hyde mentality and can change personalities mid-conversation.  Can be very confusing, to say the least.

Here’s a handy-dandy guide to a few of the personality types you may run into online.  It isn’t an exhaustive list, and if anyone has any suggestions to add, please do let me know in the comments.


There’s always a few guys out there who’ll continually look at your profile or your pictures without ever saying hello or interacting with you.  They regularly show up on your visitors/viewers list, but never make a move.  The best thing to do, if you find your ‘stalker’ cute, is to strike up a conversation and see if it leads anywhere.  Otherwise if they’re annoying you by not saying anything, why not just block them?


bear flasherIt’s happened to all of us – you get a notification of a new message from someone, and when you log into whatever app you’re using all you get is a face full of cock, ass, or some other body part the messenger thinks will get your attention and make you fall onto your knees drooling.

These pics are (presumably) unsolicited, and these guys think the only way to get a guy’s attention is to show the goods from the start instead of getting to know you as a person.  And they’re hoping you’ll send something naughty in return as well.


tumblr_mq99td9qYM1sa60d7o1_500Similar to the flasher, there are the collectors – guys who are only only to swapping pics with guys around the world, and are more interested in you sending them your pics than sending their own.  Their opening messages will be about you unlocking your private pics or sending them every salacious picture you’ve ever taken.  And sending just one or two will never be enough for them, they always want more.

You should also be careful of these guys, as there are those out there whose sole purpose of being online is finding naughty pics they can reshare themselves, be it through their own profiles (see the Imposters below) or through websites like Tumblr where they’ll show your pic to the world without your permission.

Three’s a Crowd

three's a crowdObviously these are guys who are partnered, in open relationships, looking for new ‘friends’, or perhaps looking for a third to join them in bed.  There’s loads of these types of profiles online so it’s hard not to come across them from time to time, and there’s nothing bad or wrong about them being online.  It’s their relationship, so it’s their choice.

However if you’re looking for something more than mates or a possible shag, these guys are obviously unavailable and getting involved with them could potentially become messy down the line.  And the last thing you want to be is some guy’s bit on the side.


You could also call these guys the ‘secret agent’, as they’re all about hiding their identity for any number of reasons.  Usually they’ll have headless profile pics, a generic pic of something unrecognizable or some inanimate object.  It could be they’re still in the closet, in a relationship and sneaking around on their partner (male or female), in a high profile job and afraid of scandal, or what have you.  In the end, they could still be potentially nice people or something special, but tread carefully as they’ll not likely be interested in anything that is too out in the open.

Static Clingers

These guys are all sweet and nice when you first start chatting to them, but after awhile all they have to say to you is something complimentary.  Not that that’s a bad thing per se, but after awhile that sweetness could start to give you cavities and become annoying.

chained togetherAnd they usually want to know every little detail of your day or your plans for the upcoming week, and feel left out when you haven’t let them know where you’re going to be.

These guys could potentially be insecure and think the only way to keep a guy interested is by constantly complimenting them instead of actually having a conversation or getting to know the guy as a person.


Yes, even in this day and age, there are still people out there who’ll pretend to be someone they’re not online.  This could be someone maliciously using their ex’s photos to ruin their reputation, someone using other people’s pics to chat up guys, or even women pretending to be guys to find their BFF a soulmate.

Unfortunately there are also a few people out there looking to rape, rob, physically abuse, infect with an STI/STD, or even kill some unsuspecting guy for no reason at all.  We all need to be more careful when online, as sometimes you truly don’t know if the person you’re speaking to is real or not.  Be careful!

Click HERE to read about an online date gone wrong…

The ‘One’

Although most of the guys online these days are just after a bit of fun or something casual, there are the rare few who are out there looking for love.  They’re not the easiest to find, but once you get past all the other profiles out there, you’re all set (fingers crossed).

Who knows, it could the the guy in the profile pic next to you right now.  😀

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Note: My previous post Stay Beautiful (a repost) was my 300th post!! Here’s to another 300. 🙂

This post has been inspired by the article 8 Guys You Meet on Grindr (and Other Gay Apps) – Social Apps on

4 thoughts on “Digital Dating – Guys You Meet Online

  1. aguywithoutboxers

    Excellent summary and reference, my friend! I’ve only been on two dates through social media, before I met my partner (in person), so my experience in this realm is limited. Both dates were okay, nothing spectacular, but the chemistry just wasn’t there. I suppose I am lucky to have emerged unscathed. Thanks for posting this. Much love and naked hugs! 🙂

    • Thanks Roger! 😀 To be honest, the types listed are some of the extremes some people find online. I haven’t necessarily met many of them myself, but doesn’t hurt to help identify them for those who might.

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