Did your hopes and dreams become your reality? Or is your reality completely different, be it for better or worse?
Most of us had pre(mis)conceived ideas of how we wanted our lives to turn out once we grew up and became adults. We all envisioned the home we would lovingly own.. the partner who’d fill our hearts bursting with love.. the amazing careers that fulfilled us.. the children/pets we’d adore.. and so on.
And as kids we were encouraged to have those dreams.
What a load of crap all that was huh?
I know for sure my life hasn’t turned out like any of that.
“You can have a hot lover, a hot job, and a hot apartment, but you can’t have all three at the same time.”
— Mona’s law, from Armistead Maupin’s “More Tales of the City”
I remember reading Maupin’s ‘Tales of the City’ series way back when I was a young, (somewhat) innocent, and relatively newbie gay boy, and that quote has stuck with me all these years..
And perhaps has clouded the way I look at life. Maybe even has given it a pessimistic point of view on how life should turn out, that nobody can truly have it all.
Or is there more to life and that’s perhaps a too simplistic view of the world? There are certainly a lot of other things that should make you feel happy about your life, however you’re living it.
Maybe it’s more about wanting what you don’t have. For me, at the moment, I don’t have even one of those things (Click HERE for previous post)..
Though there have been times in the past when I’ve had one or two of the three, but never really all three at once. Just when I think things are going well in one direction or another, something comes along to stop it all.
I know life isn’t that simplistic or so easy, that those things won’t necessarily fulfill you as a person. And there will always be bumps along the road we call life. Sometimes things happen that you just can’t have any control over, and supposedly these speed bumps are meant to make you strong further down the road.
Or so everyone keeps telling me. Lol
Should I perhaps lower my expectations about how I want my life to end up? Lord knows I’ve worked my ass off to try and get where I want to be in life, but it just doesn’t always turn out how I’d like it.
But is giving up on trying in the first place actually the answer? Or am I my own worst enemy and regularly sabotage my own progress in life without realising I’m doing it?
Or I could just be over-thinking it all as usual..
“I’m not sure I even need a lover, male or female. Sometimes I think I’d settle for five good friends.”
— Tales of the City by Armistead Maupin