eHarmony Founder Wants ‘Cure’ for Homosexuality


You’ve got to be kidding me!?!

I recently read this article ( about the co-founder of eHarmony‘s comments surrounding gay marriage and homosexuality.

My blood was boiling afterwards..

For those that are unfamiliar with their site (might be a few out there), it’s a paid online dating site founded in 2000 by Neil Clark Warren, a Christian theologian who worked as a clinical psychologist for 35 years, and his son-in-law.  The site is specifically designed to match single men and women for long term heterosexual relationships.  They literally match people up using a 258-question profile to determine compatibility.

In the company’s early years, they primarily marketed to a Christian demographic and were associated with the evangelical organization Focus on the Family, though they have since become secular.

Then in 2008, because the company refused to match same-sex couples, they were sued as part of a discrimination case within the New gay couple on beachJersey Civil Rights Division.  Instead of proceeding to litigation, the settlement required the company to set up a companion site for gays and lesbians, which they called Compatible Partners for ‘serious couples‘.

Despite this, co-founder Warren has continued to be quite vocal about his stance on homosexuality and same-sex marriage, and has been quoted as saying:

“I’m tired of it. It has really damaged our company, and when the attorney general of the state of New Jersey decided that we had to put up a same-sex site and we did it out of counsel that if we didn’t do it we were not going to have any business in New Jersey.”

One of their attorney’s, Theodore B. Olson, has said the company chose to settle because of the unpredictable nature of litigation, despite them believing that the complaint was “an unfair characterization of our business”.

Basically they were afraid they were going to lose to us poofs (and poof-ettes) and would have to pay out lots and lots of money in damages..

Though it is still unclear to me why gays and lesbians in New Jersey would want to use a straight dating site that was marketed specifically (at first) to the Christian community.

Or even a site where one of it’s founding members is very vocal about his dismissal of homosexuality.  In fact, Mr Warren has also gone on record as saying this:

“I have said that eHarmony really ought to put up $10 million and ask other companies to put up money and do a really first class job of figuring out homosexuality,” Warren said. “At the very best, it’s been a painful way for a lot of people to have to live. But at this point, at this age, I want America to start drawing together. I want it to be more harmonious.”

That’s right, he wants to find a ‘cure’ for homosexuality.

It astounds me how, in 2013, some people can still be so closed minded to think that being gay is something that can be fixed.  That it’s something inherently wrong within ourselves, either physically, mentally or genetically.

And I don’t think he understands if he thinks living openly as gay is ‘painful’.  It’s not painful to be yourself, for others to accept you for being yourself, for people to know the real you instead of a facade (when in the closet and lying about who you are).

What is painful is the bigotry and homophobia people such as this fill the media with, making those dealing with who they truly feel bad about themselves.

Why do you think, even in 2013, we still have gay teens choosing suicide instead of living with who they are?  It’s because they continue to be bullied in school, with teachers and parents who still turn a blind eye (not all, mind you), and we still aren’t doing enough to educate everyone that being gay doesn’t mean you should be treated any different from anyone else.

If anything, that $10 Million should be better spent on anti-bullying campaigns and education to ensure the next generation of kids have a more open view of the world as they grow up, and can grow up without being afraid to be themselves.

And closed-minded bigots and homophobes like him should have to pay for it.

*Deep Breath*

Ok I’m done with the soap-box.. anyone else want a turn?  😉

4 thoughts on “eHarmony Founder Wants ‘Cure’ for Homosexuality

  1. ivansblogworld

    It’s all about making yourself out to be more important than others. It’s sad to read this. Especially with an the high statics of teen suicide and bully’s. people sees to amaze me how dumb asses and stubborn they are.

  2. I laughed when I saw your sentence at the end “Deep Breath” because that is what I had to do after reading that! “Uh…..what”?! I just cannot even fathom hating someone because of their sexual orientation. It simply doesn’t make sense. My mom taught me at a very young age that color and sexual orientation are irrelevant when building friendships. You will connect with people through your heart. I have taught my children the same rule and when it came time to talk to them about the birds and the bees I also let them know that who they love is up to them no matter who it is.
    Unfortunately hate like Mr. Warrens is not going to go away. There will always be those that oppose same sex relationships. Some hide behind the bible (don’t even get me STARTED on that lol) and others behind their own ideas of values. Hate will never go away but neither will those of us who believe that although not all people are good, we will make our judgments on their actions and attitudes, not on who they love.

    Now I’m all worked up! lol

    I look forward to reading more of your posts.

    • I think the good thing is attitudes are slowing changing, and less and less people are opposing same sex relationships.. but it’s because of people like yourself and your mom who install proper values in their children, that love knows no boundaries (cliched, I know.. but is an apt statement lol).. and in turn, that creates a new generation willing to be open about themselves and those around them.

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