Scissor Sisters – Only The Horses

•April 15, 2014 • 1 Comment


I have no idea why, but this song has been stuck in my head all day long.. Not that it’s a bad thing, cause I quite like this song.

And let’s be honest, anything by Scissors Sisters is always a good thing to have stuck in your head.. especially when you’re thinking about how hot BabyDaddy is.  LOL

Ok.. Jake Shears isn’t too bad himself.  ;-)


When Did You Choose?

•April 14, 2014 • 2 Comments

There’s always been a lot of debate whether LGBT people choose their sexuality or if it is just a natural part of themselves.

I know for me personally I’ve always felt it’s part of who I am, who I was born to be.  It’s genetics.  And most definitely wasn’t a choice.

The below video turns the table on those who consider being gay a choice, and asks them when they chose their own sexuality.

That Time of the Week Again

•April 14, 2014 • 1 Comment

Hope everyone has a good start to the week.


Canadian tourist raped, robbed by man he met on Grindr | Gay Star News

•April 13, 2014 • 2 Comments

Quite scary when you consider how often we meet up with someone we’ve never met based on an online conversation…

Click the article link below for the story.

Canadian tourist raped, robbed by man he met on Grindr | Gay Star News.

Love Me Like a Pizza

•April 13, 2014 • Leave a Comment

Well, maybe not exactly like a pizza. Lol


Stephen King’s ‘Carrie’ – 40th Anniversary

•April 5, 2014 • 2 Comments
Still from Brian De Palma's 1976 film adaption 'Carrie'

Still from Brian De Palma’s 1976 film adaption ‘Carrie’

Love him or leave, you’ve got to admit – Stephen King has done a lot for the modern horror genre over the past several decades.

Not only did his novel ‘Carrie’ grab the world by storm and shake up the ideas of what ‘horror’ writing was, but it started the career of one of the world’s most prolific and widely read authors.  Not to mention one of the most film-adapted authors ever.

Today is the 40th anniversary of ‘Carrie’ (initially published on April 5, 1974), the novel was King’s first to be published, and when he’d first started it, he’d actually tossed it in the bin.

Stephen-King-by-Shane-LeonardI did three single-spaced pages of a first draft, then crumpled them up in disgust and threw them away.

The next night, when I came home from school, my wife Tabby had the pages. She’d spied them while emptying my waste-basket, had shaken the cigarette ashes off the crumpled balls of paper smoothed them out and sat down to read them. She wanted me to go on. She wanted to know the rest of the story. (Source: The Guardian)

Aren’t we all glad she did?

For me, I started reading King’s books as a young teen in the mid 80′s, and was instantly enthralled .. and scared shitless at the same time.  His books were the first to introduce me to the world of horror and suspense.. which eventually lead me to authors such as Anne Rice, Clive Barker, Dean Koontz, and so many others that I still read to this day.

But the thing that got me to stick with his books was how, no matter whether you liked the main character or not, you could always identify with something they were going through in the story.  It could be Carrie White’s feeling of being ostracized from her peers in ‘Carrie’, or the gang’s fear of Pennywise the Clown in ‘IT’, or even Rose’s desire for a new life away from her abusive husband in ‘Rose Madder’.

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If you weren’t afraid of clowns before…

The point is, there is something in each of his characters that makes you want to root for them.  Hell, there’s even some traits in the bad guys that make you want to cheer for (some of) them as well, and that’s a testament to King’s skill at characterization.

A skill I am working on as I foray into fiction myself.

As someone who’s mostly written blog posts or articles from my own perspective, it’s interesting to look at things differently while writing fiction.. and realise that even if I understand the character’s motives or thoughts behind what they’re doing, my reader won’t unless I show them through the writing itself.

Let’s just say it’s a work in progress.  :D

To read more about how King came up with the ideas behind ‘Carrie’, click HERE to read the full article on The Guardian website, or check out his website at

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Cyndi Lauper – She’s So Unusual: 30th Anniversary

•April 4, 2014 • 4 Comments


Can you believe it’s been 30 years since Cyndi Lauper released her debut album ‘She’s So Unusual‘?  Where has the time gone?

At 60, Lauper is rocking fiery red locks, a throwback to her 1983 debut album “She’s So Unusual.” The album broke records with four Top 5 singles, including the angst laden “Time After Time” and the iconically irreverent “Girls Just Wanna Have Fun.” Hailed at the Grammys as that year’s best new artist, Lauper went on to release nine more albums within three decades. Her music’s pop-punk hybrid sound later influenced No Doubt, P!nk and Lady GaGa. Lauper has since founded the True Colors Fund for queer homeless youth, penned her memoir and composed the Tony award winning musical “Kinky Boots.”  (Source: Washington Post)

Upon reading a couple articles regarding the anniversary, I was surprised to hear that her female-empowerment pop anthem ‘Girls Just Wanna Have Fun‘ was originally written by a man about bedding women!  That definitely would have had a different feel to it if Ms Lauper hadn’t reworked the track to fit her views on women and sexuality, promoting not just equality for all but also equality amongst women themselves.


“Girls” was engineered to be an anthem of women’s sexual freedom at a time when feminism was becoming a big part of cultural consciousness—and it helped set a template for how future stars would sing about social issues. (Source: The Atlantic)

Some people may look at Ms Lauper’s music and only enjoy it at face value, which is great in itself.  Others will look at her music as anthems for periods in their lives, and that’s even better.  Either way, you really can’t deny the impact she’s had on pop music over the decades and how future artists get their messages across.

But it’s more than that with Ms Lauper.  Anyone who’s ever seen her live will attest that she’s got this amazing energy about her, and that she truly enjoys interacting with her audiences.

Cher_CyndiLauperI remember close to 10 years ago seeing her open for Cher on her (first) farewell tour back in Montreal.  The friends I’d gone with were super excited to watch Cher live (ish), and although I wanted to see her too, I was more excited to see Cyndi Lauper.

Growing up in the 80′s, I’d always loved her music, and continued to follow her career even after she seemingly slipped from the mainstream’s eye.

One of my favourite songs of hers (barring ‘Time After Time’ or ‘True Colors’, of course) was the title song from her delayed 2004 album, ‘Shine‘.  It’s an amazing song with a great dance beat (in the remixes anyway), and a terrific message that ‘I’ll stand by you’ and ‘don’t be afraid, it will all be ok’.  The song and Ms Lauper even featured in an episode of ‘Queer as Folk (US)’.

Click HERE to watch the QAF clip on YouTube

I couldn’t help but get super giddy when she opened that show back in Montreal with that song.. and proceeded to walk through the audience up into the nosebleed seats as she sang it.  Later on in her set, she came down to stand on the front row as she sang another song (can’t remember which one) – which was amazing since we were sitting in the 8th row and had a clear view of her.

But of course, the entire audience went wild when she sang ‘True Colors’ wrapped in a Pride flag, a song she dedicates in her shows to the gay community and to PFLAG, of which she’s a member (her sister is a lesbian I believe).

What can I say.. she knows her audience.  :-)

And of course Ms Lauper doesn’t seem to be stopping anytime soon.  She’s current on tour with Cher (again.. how many times can this woman retire?), and had a ‘She’s So Unusual’ anniversary tour last summer.

I know I’ll be keeping an eye out in case she comes to London for a show or two, because I’d love to see her again live.

For more Cyndi Lauper news, tour dates, television/film appearances and whatnot, check out her website

Sick of Being Sick

•April 2, 2014 • 2 Comments


I swear, I don’t know what’s going on with me this year. Once again, I’ve come down with some kind of flu.

Since Saturday/Sunday, I’ve had a sore throat and a fever both of which got worse as the days went on. It was so sore that, come Monday morning, I could barely swallow let alone talk.

Not a good thing when you spend your working day talking on the phone for 8 hours. :-/ So I obviously haven’t been to work past couple days.

I know I should just relax and do my best to feel better, to kick this flu-type thing as quick as possible. I’m quickly getting tired of tea with honey..

Anyway, I went to the doctor’s today as it didn’t seem like things were getting better, and it turns out I’ve got some viral thing that’s going around.

And there’s nothing the doctor can do to help speed the process up.. I just need to keep doing what I’m doing – plenty of juice, tea with honey, throat lozenges, and rest, rest, rest.

But it’s funny how all of us hate to actually being sick, but always wish we could take a ‘sick’ day to relax or get those errands done we can’t do while working during the week.

As much as I’d have loved to have spent the past couple days writing away, be it on here or on the fiction work I’ve started, instead I’ve done nothing but laze on the bed and sofa, watching bland tv while playing on the iPad.

I suppose that’s exactly what I need to be doing.. Even if I’d like to use the time more productively and all that. Or maybe I’m being lazy.. Well, lazier than normal. Lol

Oh well… Hopefully this cold or whatever it is goes away soon.


UK completely disoriented by thing that happens every year

•March 31, 2014 • 4 Comments


A little bit of Daylight Savings Time humour. Hope the time change hasn’t messed up your days.

Originally posted on the morning babel:

“I say we take the hands off and nuke the clock from orbit. It’s the only way to be sure.”

Work has stagnated across the country, and thousands of people were found stumbling around the streets in their pyjamas and dressing gowns, after the annual thing that happens with the clocks once again caught everyone unawares.

Builder Mike Ock said “Has time gone forwards or backwards? Do I get up, or am I meant to stay in bed till it’s dark and/or light? Am I older or younger than I was?

“The clock on the oven says it is 7:30, but does that mean it is actually 8:30 or 6:30? I am completely freaking out.”


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Patiently Frustrated

•March 30, 2014 • 4 Comments

9681844-a-man-is-sitting-at-a-computer-and-looks-very-frustratedI don’t know what’s been up with me lately.  I’ve been very inconsistent with my writing lately and haven’t written anything at all in the past week.  And despite it bugging me, I haven’t been bothered.

No posts on my blog in the past week despite several ideas.  Nothing written on the novel I started a few weeks back or even on the erotic short stories I started even farther back than that.

It’s not like I’ve been super busy or anything.  Other than meeting a mate for dinner a couple times this past week, I’ve barely been out of the house for anything other than picking up groceries or going to work.

Ok, who am I kidding.. I spent too much of my free time kicking around the house.  I’m quickly becoming a hermit.

I’m not sure what it is, but once I come home from work, the last thing I want to do is to head back out again.  I’m comfortable at home, I don’t have to interact with people (yes, I’m anti-social), and I’m generally relaxed .. when I’m not getting myself wound up about having no social or love life.

Yes, I know (before anyone brings it up or mentions my previous post).  In order to have more of a social life I have to BE social.  I’m working on it, slowly.  I’ll get there eventually.  Don’t push me too much.  ;-)couch-photo-800x704

I don’t know.  I think maybe the reason I’ve been feeling so meh lately is how it seems things are just standing still, despite efforts to move them along.  And for once it has nothing to do with my (lack of a) social or love life.

For instance, I applied for a different position at work a month ago (not a promotion, more of a move sideways) and I’m still waiting to hear back.  I haven’t even had an actual interview despite others getting one, but I did sit down with the hiring manager at one point to talk about the position and whether my application would be considered – I have a mark against me due to my absences in the past 6 months (not going into details obviously) and company policy states that would prevent me from being offered the role, regardless of my ability.

At the same time, I was contacted from an employment agency about a position with a charity-type company near London Bridge that sounded amazing .. and payed a LOT more than my current company for basically the same role.  It all sounded like things were potentially going well with that, until this past Friday when the agency let me know the company had someone internally already doing the role, so would wait and see if that works out first.


And of course, as anyone who read my previous post What Do I Write About, I’d submitted some article ideas to a large UK Gay magazine.. and now 2 to 3 weeks and several emails later, I’m still waiting to hear back whether they liked my ideas and wanted me to write something up.  I’m hoping that maybe it’s a bad time and they’ll get back to me soon, but I would have hoped to at least gotten an acknowledgement response of some sort by now.


I’m not particularly feeling down at the moment, but more a bit frustrated that nothing’s happening.  I know, I know – I have to be patient, these things can’t be rushed or forced.  If it’s meant to be, then it’ll happen and all that.

I’m not so naive that I think something will just drop in my lap.  I know I have to work hard to get where I want to be, I’m just tired – it feels like all I’ve done over the past year or two is push towards what I want out of life, only to keep coming up against a brick wall.

(Anyone who was reading my blog during my year-long unemployment will know what I’m talking about…)

I do find it interesting though.. While recently talking to a couple of mates (separately) about trying to find something better work-wise, both of them inferred the same thing – that I should be happy I have a job now, and to to remember how I felt when I wasn’t working.

As if wanting to move forward in life, either back to where I was position/career-wise before the unemployment or to somewhere new and better, that it was me being selfish somehow.  Like I should just be happy with what I got instead of wanting or looking for something more.

I tried not to take it in a negative way, but I couldn’t help think that was crap advice.  Or maybe I read too much into it.

Life is hard, and crap, and sometimes unfair.  It’s just a matter of keeping going until I get where I want to be.

And I’m definitely not there.  Yet.

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