More generally, losing your mojo means you’ve lost your self-confidence and belief in your own abilities, and not just when it comes to sex. That you’ve lost your ability to bounce back from a debilitating trauma and negative attitude.
Like when you’ve lost a job and you’re left feeling adrift or with no idea of what to do next.
Yep, that’s been me for most of the past 2 years. The longer my unemployment went on, the less confident I was in my own abilities. And I couldn’t stop the negative thoughts creeping into my head – that maybe I wasn’t that good at my job, or that maybe my past successes were just a fluke.
And despite friends trying to bolster my confidence by reminding me of all the great things I’d done, all I could muster was something non-committal. Because in my head, all I could think was ‘I suck’. Even though I didn’t.
Basically when you’re in this situation and your mojo seems to be playing the most annoying game of hide-and-seek ever, you need to take it as a sign from the universe that it’s time for a change. That maybe you need to go in a different direction, and soften your usual rushed go-go-go approach to life.
Here are a few helpful tips gleaned from an article on LinkedIn a friend posted on Facebook (click the link at the bottom for the full article).
Write it out
As evident by this very blog, I like to write out what I’m feeling and thinking instead of letting it bounce around my poor head. By journalling your thoughts, it allows you to look deeper into yourself, find ideas your conscious mind might not have normally thought of, and allows you to guide your own reinvention.
Change it up a bit
Sometimes you just need a break from what you’ve been doing or trying to do and take things in a different direction. A lot of people tend to get a survivor job while looking for more gainful employment, and this allows them to do something completely different. It can help you stay focused mentally, as well as keep an income coming in.
In fact some people continue to work a second, part-time job once or twice a week just as a way to shift their attention.
Get Out of Your Head
This is advice I need to take – stop trying to ‘solve’ everything like a logic puzzle, because you’re not a puzzle. Instead you need to look at this as a time for reinvention, like the physical transformation when a caterpillar turns into a butterfly.
So the best advice for this is to do something fun and possibly artistic (like working on that damn novel I started a few months ago). Go dancing. Enjoy the sunshine. The more you care and respect your body by letting your brain have downtime from the normal job hunt, the faster your mojo could return.
You’ve come a long way, baby!
We’ve all gone through rough times and came out of them flying like the wind. You need to remember where you’ve been and how you’ve gotten to where you are, as it’ll paint a picture of your path and remind you of how far you’ve come.
Whenever I start to think life is crap, I try remembering how I got here in the first place. And by here, I mean London. I was living in Montreal, bored with life, and I decided one day to do something about it.. and spent the next year planning, organising and saving to move to London. It wasn’t easy, but I put all the naysayers behind me and achieved something I never thought was possible before.
It reminds me that anything is possible if I want it hard enough and actively move towards it.
Get off your ass and step away from the computer!! Or at least that’s what I tell myself when I’ve spent untold hours every day sitting at the laptop looking through job ads. So I’ve been making myself leave the house and going for a walk, or forcing myself to go to the gym (I’ve been quite lazy about that lately..).
You can’t force your mojo back by sheer brain power itself, so you need to let your body take over and take care of you.
A great way to boost your own mojo is to help someone else in need, be it through volunteer work, listening to your mate’s boyfriend troubles, or helping a fellow job seeker with some advice. By helping someone else, you’re boosting your own sense of self as you’ll realise you have more wisdom and knowledge than you ever thought before.
Be aware of what’s around you.
When looking to reinvent yourself, you need to remember it doesn’t happen in a linear process. Instead you need to keep an eye and ear out for the little messages around you. It could be something overheard on the bus, something you notice sitting in the coffee shop, or even something that pops up in a dream. Whatever it is, it could lead you to your next adventure, so listen up and enjoy the ride.
Un-define yourself from your past
I felt lost and confused when I first went through my redundancy, as I’d defined so much of my life based on my job. Those feeling caused me to become unsure about myself and who I was as a person. What I needed was to remember that a job is just a job, and it isn’t the whole of my existence. And it most definitely didn’t define me as a person.
You need to remember that bigger adventures are always on the horizon, and that you are fine and amazing. You need to give up on that perceived fixed identity and be ready for the possibilities. You don’t need some high-paying, powerful job with a fancy business card to be amazing, because you’re already there.
Be yourself and let life take you where it’s supposed to. Trust me, you’ll enjoy the ride all the better. You just need to give it time for your mojo to come back to you.
Click here to read the original article - How To Get Your Mojo Back | LinkedIn.